Beyond Our Control : Restructuring Your Life after Sexual Assault

by Sommerfeld, Leila Rae

• ISBN13: 9780825436826
• ISBN10: 0825436826
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2009-03-09
• Publisher: Kregel Pubns

Summary

The statistics are startling: 12-38 percent of women have experienced sexual abuse and over the next decade, more than 900,000 women and 28 million children will become victims. Sexual abuse is not going away-and neither will its aftermath.

Author Biography

Leila Rae Sommerfeld holds an Advanced Certificate in Pastoral Care to Women from Western Seminary in Portland, Oregon, and is a member of the American Association of Christian Counselors. She lives in Gresham, Oregon, with her husband.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	p. 11
Introduction	p. 13
My Story
Nighttime Intruder	p. 17
Nutcracker Suite	p. 33
His Name Is Crackers	p. 39
The Loud, Silent Year	p. 45
Facing the Enemy	p. 51
Perpetrators Change-Well, Some Do	p. 59
Tough Love	p. 67
God Can Create New Life	p. 75
Restructuring Your Life After Sexual Assault: Dear Reader	p. 83
Original Trauma	p. 85
Fear and the Loss of Safety	p. 91
Post-Traumatic Stress	p. 97
Depression	p. 101
Shame and Guilt	p. 105
You Don't Need to Forgive Yourself	p. 111
Memories	p. 115
Writing to Heal	p. 121
Secondary Wounding	p. 125
They Do It Because They Want To	p. 131
Where's God?	p. 141
Relationship Effects	p. 145
Marital Intimacy After Rape	p. 149
Mother Eve	p. 153
A Social and Cultural Crisis	p. 159
Victim Thinking	p. 165
Releasing Your Anger	p. 169
Do We Ever Recover?	p. 173
Choosing to Heal	p. 177
Signs of Healing	p. 185
Taking Care of Yourself	p. 191
Joy Will Come in the Morning	p. 201
In the Aftermath of Rape or Sexual Assault	p. 205
Covenant with God	p. 207
A Guide for Husbands, Fathers, and Friends	p. 209
Dear Church	p. 215
Suggested Reading	p. 217
Notes	p. 219
About the Author	p. 229
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