The Blame Game

by Farber, Neil E., M.D.

• ISBN13: 9781935098355
• ISBN10: 1935098357
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2010-09-01
• Publisher: Bascom Hill Pub Group Ltd

Summary

In The Blame Game, Dr. Neil Farber takes a new look at the world¿s oldest game. With humor and wit, Farber will teach you the rules, techniques, and advanced strategies of this ancient past time. One of the first things you¿ll learn is how to pick a Target of Blame ¿ ¿the scapegoat, the stooge, the donkey.¿ Wars, wildfires, terrorism, and talk shows are all to blame ¿ and somebody¿s to blame for all of those. An experienced player can blame anything or anyone, at any time. Students not succeeding in school? Blame the teachers. Or the parents. Or the teachers¿ parents, or the pencils. Bad day at the office? Blame the boss. Of course, blame the employees if you are the boss. On a deeper level, The Blame Game is self-empowering; providing the inspiration, knowledge, and tools you need to accept responsibility and gain control of your life. Farber shows you how to improve your health, well-being, relationships, and careers by reaching beyond blame. So pick up the book and put down the game.

Author Biography

Dr. Neil Farber is an international expert on blaming. He is a physician and researcher with a degree in psychology. He is a member of the International Positive Psychology Association, the Positive Health Task Force, and a national Wellness Task Force. Dr. Farber is founder of the Dynamic Health Wellness Institute and lectures on conflict management, wellness, and positive parenting.

Table of Contents

Preface: Who's to blame for this book?	p. xiii
Definition	p. xvii
What is The Blame Game?	p. 1
What is the game?	p. 1
When did it start?	p. 2
Who bought the game?	p. 6
Who can play?	p. 7
What are the rules of the game?	p. 9
When will the game end?	p. 10
Some Blaming Formats	p. 13
Group blaming	p. 13
Televised blaming	p. 20
Legal blaming	p. 29
Learning to Blame	p. 35
Inborn or learned behavior?	p. 36
As children	p. 36
Learning from siblings	p. 39
Learning from friends	p. 42
Why We Blame	p. 46
Innate need	p. 47
Copying behavior	p. 47
Avoid responsibility	p. 48
Internalize vs. externalize	p. 52
Wrong focus	p. 53
It's easier	p. 56
Afraid of success	p. 57
Programmed to accept the negative	p. 59
How We Blame	p. 62
Unintentionally	p. 63
Subtly	p. 66
Blatantly	p. 68
Casually	p. 68
Secretly	p. 69
Deceitfully	p. 71
Who We Blame	p. 75
Ourselves	p. 75
Family	p. 77
Friends	p. 78
Spouses	p. 79
Bosses and co-workers	p. 80
Teachers and students	p. 82
Strangers	p. 84
What We Blame	p. 87
Government	p. 88
God	p. 94
Satan	p. 100
Nature	p. 101
Genetics	p. 104
Other	p. 109
Problems With The Game	p. 116
Not fun...especially for the blamee	p. 116
It's expensive	p. 117
You could be wrong	p. 118
Hinders relationships	p. 120
Relies on negativity	p. 120
Benefits of Quitting	p. 122
More control of your life	p. 122
Better mental health	p. 124
Achieve your potential	p. 125
Enhance relationships	p. 126
Improve your marriage	p. 127
Make new friends	p. 127
Greater success in business	p. 128
Gain respect	p. 129
Better physical health	p. 129
How To Stop Playing	p. 130
Acknowledge that you have control	p. 132
Take responsibility	p. 133
Realize that failures are steps to success	p. 135
Judge favorably	p. 136
Empathize-externalize for others	p. 138
Make excuses for others	p. 139
Explain, don't complain	p. 142
Believe in something	p. 144
A coincidence?	p. 149
Conclusions	p. 153
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