Laura S. Kastner, Ph.D., is a clinical associate professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at the University of Washington. A psychologist and mother of two, she writes and lectures widely on adolescence and family behavior. She and Jennifer Wyatt, Ph.D., are the co-authors of three books, including Getting to Calm: Cool-headed Strategies for Parenting Tweens and Teens; The Launching Years: Strategies for Parenting Senior Year to College Life; and The Seven Year Stretch: How families Work Together to Grow Through Adolescence.
Acknowledgments | p. xiii |
Introduction: Teen Difficulties Happen to the Best of Parents | p. xiv |
When Your Sweet Child Morphs into a Sassy Teen | p. 1 |
Why Are Today's Teens So Rude? | p. 1 |
When to Try to Tame the 'Tude | p. 3 |
Staying Calm in the Face of Rudeness | p. 5 |
The Tricky Issue of Manners | p. 6 |
Family Story: A Mom Deftly Handles a Defiant Teen | p. 7 |
The Most Effective Parenting Style for Raising a Successful Teen | p. 12 |
When Smart Teens Do Really Dumb Things | p. 17 |
When-and Why-Teens Don't Use Their Heads | p. 17 |
Extraordinary Discoveries in Brain Science | p. 18 |
Why Emotion Often Trumps Reason in Teens | p. 20 |
Family Story: A Teen's Big Blunder Triggers Extreme Parent Reactions | p. 22 |
Helping Kids Learn from Their Mistakes | p. 26 |
The Myth of Immunity | p. 28 |
When Your Trustworthy Teen Pulls a Fast One | p. 31 |
Family Story: Skillful Handling of a Teen Crisis | p. 31 |
Stellar Strategies for Confronting a Teen | p. 35 |
Why Even Good Teens Lie | p. 37 |
Setting up Family Rules and Policies: Don't Forget to Have Them! | p. 38 |
Using the CALM Technique | p. 42 |
Dealing with Doubts: Do My Teen and I Have a Good Relationship? | p. 45 |
When You and Your Spouse Disagree | p. 48 |
The Family Fish Bowl | p. 48 |
Family Story: Parents at Their Wit's End | p. 54 |
Good Cop/Bad Cop: Why Nobody Wins | p. 59 |
How Decent Kids Turn into Problem Kids | p. 61 |
Four Triggers for Splitting Parents Apart | p. 64 |
When Your Teen Is Acting Like a Spoiled Brat | p. 69 |
The Epidemic of "Entitle-mania" | p. 69 |
Family Story: A Parent's Plan Backfires | p. 70 |
The Big Brush-off: A Teen's Favorite Weapon | p. 72 |
The Usual Slog with an Average Teen | p. 75 |
Q&A: How to Kick-start New and Better Habits for Truly Resistant Teens | p. 76 |
Family Story: If I Say "Yes," Will My Teen Love Me More? | p. 81 |
Weak Boundaries and Family-of-Origin Problems | p. 83 |
Pathways to Indulgence | p. 86 |
When You're Worried You're Losing Your Teen | p. 89 |
What Am I, Chopped Liver? | p. 89 |
Selfhood 2.0 | p. 90 |
The Self-centeredness of Young Teens | p. 93 |
Lie Low and Wear Beige | p. 97 |
Family Story: A Dad Struggles with His Son's Choices | p. 98 |
Forks in the Road: Who Gets to Choose the Way? | p. 101 |
Identity Development: There's a Method to the Madness | p. 104 |
When They're Screaming at You-or Not Talking at All | p. 108 |
Family Story: A Savvy Mom Avoids a Mother-Daughter Tornado | p. 109 |
Dealing with Emotional Dumping | p. 113 |
Family Story: The Burdens of Boyhood | p. 116 |
Staying Connected when Your Teen Is Shutting You Out | p. 119 |
The "Girl Thing" and the "Boy Thing" | p. 121 |
When Teens Are Mean | p. 127 |
Why Bashing Your Teen's Friends Is a Bad Move | p. 127 |
Family Story: A Mom Helps Her Daughter Outwit an "Alpha" Friend | p. 129 |
How Parents Can Blow It by Overreacting to Peers | p. 134 |
Adolescent Social Bruises | p. 136 |
Social Cruelty on a Spectrum | p. 138 |
How "in" a Teen's World Should You Be? | p. 140 |
Strategic Moves for Banning Friends | p. 141 |
Nudging Shy Teens Along the Social Path | p. 143 |
When Your Teen Wants to Be Wired All the Time | p. 147 |
Family Story: A Turbo-charged Cyberidentity | p. 151 |
Family Story: Caught in the Web of a Cyberstalker | p. 154 |
Family Story: The Plague of Plagiarism | p. 156 |
Family Story: Pornography Invasion | p. 158 |
Family Story: Branding of Teens Like Cattle in a Herd | p. 161 |
Family Story: "Game Washed" | p. 163 |
Why Face Time Matters | p. 165 |
When Your Teen Is "Going Out" | p. 168 |
The Teen Brain in Love | p. 168 |
Family Story: A Mom Fears Her Son Is Falling for a "Fast Girl" | p. 170 |
Do's and Don'ts of Teen Dating for Parents | p. 175 |
Socializing, Romance, and Going Out | p. 176 |
Downsides of Romantic Relationships | p. 180 |
The Incredible Benefits of Dating | p. 182 |
When You Need to Talk About Sex | p. 185 |
Puberty Dawns | p. 185 |
New Bodies, New Challenges | p. 186 |
Talking to Teens About Sexuality: Myths and Misconceptions | p. 188 |
Family Story: Navigating the Tricky Waters of Talking About Sexual Intimacy | p. 192 |
A List for Teens Considering Sexual Intimacy | p. 198 |
New Trends on the Block | p. 200 |
Techniques for Talking About Sex | p. 201 |
When You're Fighting About Grades | p. 205 |
The Core Four | p. 207 |
What Kind of Student Is Your Teen? | p. 208 |
Family Story: A Lackadaisical Student Piles on the Excuses | p. 211 |
Help on the Home Front for Disappointing Grades | p. 216 |
Seven Top Tips for Boosting School Achievement | p. 219 |
What Matters More than the Numbers Game | p. 224 |
When You Catch Your Teen Drinking or Smoking | p. 227 |
Why Risk Is a Teen's Middle Name | p. 228 |
The Teen Brain and Substances: A Unique and Scary Brew | p. 231 |
Good Moves for Sticky Situations | p. 233 |
Write a Caring Letter to Your Teen | p. 240 |
Actions that Speak Louder than Words | p. 242 |
When Everyone Is Completely Stressed Out | p. 245 |
Family Story: A Scheduling Dilemma | p. 247 |
Why We Put Up with the Rat Race | p. 250 |
Crafting a Calmer Home | p. 253 |
A Strategic Plan for Building Family Health | p. 257 |
Notes | p. 261 |
Parent Resources | p. 265 |
Index | p. 268 |
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