Getting Past the Affair A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On -- Together or Apart

by Snyder, Douglas K.; Baucom, Donald H.; Gordon, Kristina Coop

• ISBN13: 9781572308015
• ISBN10: 157230801X
• Edition: 1st
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2007-01-06
• Publisher: The Guilford Press

Summary

Winner of the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies (ABCT) Self-Help Seal of Merit! In the aftermath of infidelity, couples often struggle with emotional turmoil and sometimes make decisions they later regret. Getting Past the Affairhelps them overcome the initial shock, understand what happened and why, and think clearly about their best interests before they act. Based on the combined insight of leading marital therapists and researchers, this unique program encourages couples and individuals to take things one step at a time, whether they stay together or part ways. Research shows that roughly two-thirds of those who use the approach find it significantly beneficial, making it the only program to have been empirically tested and proven to help partners restore trust and rebuild their marriage after an affair. Even in cases where reconciliation is impossible, this compassionate, insightful book emphasizes ways for readers to recover personally and avoid emotional scars so they can pursue healthier relationships in the future.

Author Biography

Douglas K. Snyder, PhD, is Professor of Psychology and Director of Clinical Training at Texas A&M University. He received the American Psychological Association’s award for Distinguished Contributions to Family Psychology for his research on marital satisfaction and therapy. He lives in College Station, Texas, where he also has a private practice.

Donald H. Baucom, PhD, is Professor of Psychology at the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill. His research, funded in part by the National Institutes of Health, focuses on couples and marriage. He lives in Chapel Hill, North Carolina, and was ranked as one of the top marital therapists and researchers in the United States by Good Housekeeping’s national survey of mental health professionals.

Kristina Coop Gordon, PhD, is Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology at the University of Tennessee. Her research focuses on forgiveness, infidelity, and couple therapy. In addition to her academic work, she lives and maintains a private practice in Knoxville, Tennessee.

Table of Contents

Introduction

How Do We Stop Hurting?

What's Happening to Us?

How Do We Get Through the Day?

How Do We Talk with Each Other?

How Do We Deal with Others?

How Do We Care for Ourselves?

How Did This Happen?

Why Stir Everything Up?

Was My Marriage to Blame?

Was It the World Around Us?

How Could My Partner Have Done This?

What Was My Role?

How Do I Make Sense of It All?

Can This Marriage Be Saved?

How Do I Get Past the Hurt?

Can This Marriage Be Saved?

What Lies Ahead? Additional Resources

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