How Do We Tell the Children?: A Step-by-Step Guide for Helping Children Two to Teen Cope When Someone Dies

by Schaefer, Dan

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4th

ISBN13:

9781557049117

ISBN10:

1557049114

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Paperback

Pub. Date:

6/8/2010

Publisher(s):

Harpercollins

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Now in its third edition, this classic guide is expanded and updated to feature new material on dealing with trauma and devastation, addressing violence in schools, helping grandparents cope as caregivers, and an enlarged quick-reference "Crisis Section" with scripts, answers, and messages for young ones.

Author Biography

Dan Schaefer, Ph.D., has served as a guest faculty member at the College of Physicians and Surgeons, Columbia University, and the graduate schools at New York, Adelphi, Hofstra, and Rutgers universities. He has consulted with both military and police survivors. For more than thirty years he managed a family-owned funeral home that served families for four generations. "How do we tell the children?" was the question most often asked by grieving parents. His invaluable past experience and current work as President of Peak Performance Strategies have contributed to this practical and wise new edition. He lives in Roslyn, NY.
Christine Lyons is a journalist in New York City.

Preface	p. xi
Foreword	p. xiii
Introduction: The Solitary Mourner	p. 1
What Children Think About Death	p. 11
Two to Six Years	p. 16
Six to Nine Years	p. 20
Nine to Twelve Years	p. 21
Teenagers	p. 24
Explaining Death to Children	p. 26
Death of a Grandparent	p. 27
Death Of an Immediate Family Member (Mother, Father, Sibling)	p. 41
Infant Death	p. 47
Death of a Friend or Classmate	p. 55
Accidental Death	p. 58
Murder	p. 59
Suicide	p. 62
Aids	p. 70
How to Talk to Children about Someone who is zDying	p. 79
How to Talk to a Mentally Retarded Child	p. 91
Death of a Pet	p. 93
Grief and Healing	p. 95
Common Reactions to Grief	p. 98
The Special Needs of Children	p. 103
The Grieving Process	p. 106
Problems to be Prepared for at Various Ages	p. 112
Dealing with Anger, Guilt, and Responsibility	p. 119
Helping your Child to Heal	p. 124
Expectations for the Grieving Child and the Best Ways to Respond	p. 131
Traumatic Stress	p. 139
One Personal Experience of Trauma	p. 144
Schools and Trauma	p. 155
The Funeral-Finding a Way to Say Good-bye	p. 158
Telling Children what to Expect	p. 161
A Good-Bye Gift	p. 165
Questions your Child Might Ask	p. 167
"Life Goes On"	p. 169
Crisis Checklist	p. 171
Bibliography and Support Groups	p. 187
Index	p. 197
About the Authors	p. 203
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