How to Love Choosing Well at Every Stage of Life

by Livingston, Gordon

• ISBN13: 9780738213873
• ISBN10: 073821387X
• Edition: Reprint
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2011-01-11
• Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books

Summary

From the internationally bestselling author of "Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart"comes an invigorating exploration of how and who is best to love.

Author Biography

Gordon Livingston, MD, is a psychiatrist and writer whose three previous books have been published in more than twenty-two countries. He lives and works in Maryland.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	p. xi
First deserve, then desire	p. xiii
Oh, how powerfully the magnet of illusion attracts	p. xxv
A Man Is Known by the Company He Avoids
Don't blame the mirror for your own reflection	p. 5
Fear is the prison of the heart	p. 25
Always borrow from a pessimist; he won't expect to be paid back	p. 34
No hell is private	p. 51
Against boredom the gods themselves fight in vain	p. 55
The best of compasses does not point to true north	p. 61
We cannot direct the wind but we can trim the sails	p. 64
Life is rarely as simple as we would have it	p. 69
We flatter ourselves if we believe that our character is fixed	p. 75
What is essential is invisible to the eye	p. 80
The first duty of love is to listen	p. 85
When all is said and done, more is said than done	p. 88
People to Cherish
The Essential Virtues	p. 95
Kindness	p. 98
Optimism	p. 103
Courage	p. 108
Loyalty	p. 114
Tolerance	p. 118
Honesty	p. 122
Beauty	p. 126
Humor	p. 132
Flexibility	p. 136
Intelligence	p. 138
It Is Not the Answer That Enlightens but the Question
The most dangerous food to eat is a wedding cake	p. 143
The gods too are fond of a joke: the role of chance in human affairs	p. 148
Love will make you forget time and time will make you forget love	p. 152
Any landing you can walk away from is a good landing	p. 158
Falling in love with love is falling for make-believe	p. 164
Experience: Test first, lesson later	p. 169
The trouble with parents is that by the time they are experienced they are unemployed	p. 173
If it weren't for marriage, men and women would have to fight with total strangers	p. 179
Beware of those who are sure they are right	p. 185
Money can't buy happiness; it can, however, rent it	p. 187
Ideas are easier to love than people	p. 192
If you were arrested for kindness, would there be enough evidence to-convict?	p. 196
About the Author	p. 205
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