Inviting God to Your Wedding : And Keeping God in Your Marriage

by Williamson, Martha

• ISBN13: 9780307587695
• ISBN10: 030758769X
• Edition: 1st
• Format: Trade Paper
• Copyright: 2010-01-26
• Publisher: Crown Archetype

Summary

Written with honesty, wisdom, and humor, this inspiring "wedding handbook" is filled with ideas, suggestions, and commonsense advice that focus on the most important aspect of every wedding: the coming together of a man and a woman "in the sight of God."

Author Biography

Martha Williamson is the award-winning Executive Producer and Head Writer of the groundbreaking inspirational series Touched By An Angel. In addition to her twenty-year career in television drama, comedy, and variety, she is also a popular speaker and author. Jon Andersen, Co-Executive Producer of Touched By An Angel, is a producer and director. He is a veteran of more than fifty television series, movies of the week, mini-series, and feature films. Jon and Martha were married in 1998 in Santa Barbara, California.


From the Hardcover edition.

Table of Contents

Introduction	p. 1
rivers in the desert	p. 7
preparing spiritually for your wedding	p. 33
The First Invitation Goes to God	p. 35
Wait a Minute, I Feel Like a Hypocrite!	p. 41
I Don't Want a "Religious" Wedding	p. 47
Celebrating Our Happiness Is Celebrating God	p. 54
Is God Going to Make Me Do Something I Don't Want to Do?	p. 59
Gathering the Storm All by Yourself	p. 66
Traditions or Superstitions?	p. 72
Dousing Old Flames and Severing Soul Ties	p. 81
Abstinence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder	p. 90
You Don't Want To, You Don't Have Time, and You Don't Need It Anyway	p. 98
The Couple That Prays Together	p. 106
the engagement and planning for big day	p. 113
The Myth of the Dream Wedding	p. 115
Wedding Books Are Not Bibles	p. 120
Dates and Weights	p. 125
The Fifty-Dollar Weddmg	p. 130
Choosing Your Bridesmaids	p. 136
Dress for the Best	p. 142
Spiritual and Meaningful Themes for Showers	p. 147
The Courage to Make the Guest List	p. 157
Saying Good-bye to the Single Life	p. 164
The Only Two Things That Will Finally Matter	p. 170
the big day	p. 177
It's Raining and the Police Are Still Here	p. 179
The Best Thing I Did on My Wedding Day	p. 186
God's Favorite Part	p. 192
A Reception Means to Receive	p. 207
the day after your wedding	p. 219
Good Morning!	p. 221
The Honeymoon	p. 226
And Now It Begins	p. 231
a few words to men from Jon	p. 237
Be Thou a Blessing	p. 239
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Excerpts

The first invitation goes to God

You could get married in three minutes in front of two witnesses and someone with the authority to declare you legally married. You don't need a cake, you don't need champagne, you don't need a room full of spectators, and you don't need music or even a wedding dress.

You probably need a license and, of course, someone who wants to spend the rest of his life with you. That's important. I begin this book with the assumption that you are actually marrying someone for that reason--that you both are madly in love and can't imagine living life without each other.

But you are also reading this book because you have decided that you need Someone Else at the wedding. At some level you understand that a wedding between two people, an officiant, and two or even two hundred witnesses is certainly legal, possibly romantic, and definitely optimistic, but it isn't necessarily a spiritual event. However, if God attends your wedding, you are replacing optimism with faith and genuine hope. You are saying that you are aware of the challenges that marriage presents and that you are asking God to be there with you both at the very beginning and to stay with you on the journey until death do you part.

There is a ship and it sails the sea . . .
Give us a boat that can carry two
And both shall row, my love and I.

Marriage is not so much an institution as it is a conveyance, and I often think of these lyrics from a folk song when I try to describe marriage as a form of transportation through life. However, "Unless the Lord builds the house," or in this case the ship, "we labor in vain," says the Bible (Psalm 127:1). The time to construct the boat is not when it's in the middle of troubled waters. It makes the most sense to build it in fair weather before it ever has to ride out a storm. That's why you'll want to invite God from the very beginning, to help you design your ship and set your course. That means that a spiritual marriage begins with a spiritual wedding. And a spiritual wedding begins with spiritual preparation. It's not just about picking hymns and choosing readings from the Bible. It's about preparing your own heart to be as emotionally and spiritually ready as possible to step into that boat when the big day comes!

And so, the first wedding invitation that you send should be a very personal one, a prayer that asks God to attend not only the ceremony on your wedding day, but to be there for all the decisions and the details beforehand. Remember, God holds time in His hands. Whatever concerns you have about the months to come, He is already there in the future and He can give you peace about it. So it is perfectly right and appropriate to include Him today. Don't wait until the morning of your wedding to ask Him to show up. There is so much He can do right now to help.

I know, it's hard to imagine. Why would God care about your wedding? People make the mistake of assuming that God is too busy with "really important issues" to be bothered with somebody's nuptials. But that was never my experience. I love this line from a popular hymn that I sing to myself whenever I think my needs are too trivial for God.

His eye is on the sparrow and I know He watches me.

His eye is on you, too. And I know He is watching and waiting for your invitation.

Ideas to ponder
The Greeks described love in three forms. The first two are "Eros" and "Philia." Eros is the love that expresses itself romantically. Philia is friendship. H. Norman Wright describes the two this way: "While eros is almost always a face-to-face relationship, philia is often a shoulder-to-shoulder relationship." Finally, the third form of love is "Agape"--the love that is unconditional and asks nothing in return. That is, perhaps, the best love of all. Beyond face-to-face and shoulder-

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