Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office 101 Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers

by Frankel, Lois P.

• ISBN13: 9780446531320
• ISBN10: 0446531324
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2004-02-11
• Publisher: Business Plus

Summary

The things today's women learned as girls may be preventing them from becoming financially independent. Bestselling author Frankel tackles outdated concepts that women are continuing to follow and offers tried-and-true coaching tips to help them take control of their money and their lives.

Author Biography

Lois P. Frankel, Ph.D., is the President of Corporate Coaching International and sought-after for speaker engagements all over the world. She is a recognized expert in the fields of workplace behavior and female empowerment showing that half of the American workforce is made up of women, and they still earn 76.5 cents to every dollar earned by men.

Table of Contents

Introduction	xiii
Chapter 1 Getting Started	1	(18)
Chapter 2 How You Play the Game	19	(34)
1. Pretending It Isn't a Game	20	(2)
2. Playing the Game Safely and within Bounds	22	(2)
3. Working Hard	24	(2)
4. Doing the Work of Others	26	(2)
5. Working without a Break	28	(2)
6. Being Naive	30	(2)
7. Pinching Company Pennies	32	(2)
8. Waiting to Be Given What You Want	34	(4)
9. Avoiding Office Politics	38	(2)
10. Being the Conscience	40	(6)
11. Protecting Jerks 44	46	(2)
12. Holding Your Tongue
13. Failing to Capitalize on Relationships	48	(2)
14. Not Understanding the Needs of Your Constituents	50	(3)
Chapter 3 How You Act	53	(36)
15. Polling Before Making a Decision
16. Needing to Be Liked	56	(2)
17. Not Needing to Be Liked	58	(2)
18. Not Asking Questions for Fear of Sounding Stupid	60	(2)
19. Acting Like a Man	62	(3)
20. Telling the Whole Truth and Nothing but the Truth (So Help You God)	65	(3)
21. Sharing Too Much Personal Information	68	(2)
22. Being Overly Concerned with Offending Others	70	(2)
23. Denying the Importance of Money	72	(2)
24. Flirting	74	(2)
25. Acquiescing to Bullies	76	(2)
26. Decorating Your Office Like Your Living Room	78	(2)
27. Feeding Others	80	(2)
28. Offering a Limp Handshake	82	(2)
29. Being Financially Insecure	84	(3)
30. Helping	87	(2)
Chapter 4 How You Think	89	(34)
31. Making Miracles	90	(2)
32. Taking Full Responsibility	92	(2)
33. Obediently Following Instructions	94	(2)
34. Viewing Men in Authority as Father Figures	96	(2)
35. Limiting Your Possibilities	98	(4)
36. Ignoring the Quid Pro Quo	102	(2)
37. Skipping Meetings	104	(2)
38. Putting Work Ahead of Your Personal Life	106	(2)
39. Letting People Waste Your Time	108	(2)
40. Prematurely Abandoning Your Career Goals	110	(3)
41. Ignoring the Importance of Network Relationships	113	(3)
42. Refusing Perks	116	(2)
43. Making Up Negative Stories	118	(2)
44. Striving for Perfection	120	(3)
Chapter 5 How You Brand and Market Yourself	123	(24)
45. Failing to Define Your Brand	124	(2)
46. Minimizing Your Work or Position	126	(2)
47. Using Only Your Nickname or First Name	128	(2)
48. Waiting to Be Noticed	130	(2)
49. Refusing High-Profile Assignments	132	(2)
50. Being Modest	134	(2)
51. Staying in Your Safety Zone	136	(2)
52. Giving Away Your Ideas	138	(2)
53. Working in Stereotypical Roles or Departments	140	(2)
54. Ignoring Feedback	142	(2)
55. Being Invisible	144	(3)
Chapter 6 How You Sound	147	(38)
56. Couching Statements as Questions	148	(2)
57. Using Preambles	150	(2)
58. Explaining	152	(2)
59. Asking Permission	154	(2)
60. Apologizing	156	(2)
61. Using Minimizing Words	158	(2)
62. Using Qualifiers	160	(2)
63. Not Answering the Question	162	(2)
64. Talking Too Fast	164	(2)
65. The Inability to Speak the Language of Your Business	166	(2)
66. Using Nonwords	168	(2)
67. Using Touchy-Feely Language	170	(2)
68. The Sandwich	172	(4)
69. Speaking Softly	176	(2)
70. Speaking at a Higher-than-Natural Pitch	178	(2)
71. Trailing Voice Mails	180	(2)
72. Failing to Pause or Reflect Before Responding	182	(3)
Chapter 7 How You Look	185	(30)
73. Smiling Inappropriately	186	(2)
74. Taking Up Too Little Space	188	(2)
75. Using Gestures Inconsistent with Your Message	190	(2)
76. Being Over- or Underanimated	192	(2)
77. Tilting Your Head	194	(2)
78. Wearing Inappropriate Makeup	196	(2)
79. Wearing the Wrong Hairstyle	198	(2)
80. Dressing Inappropriately	200	(2)
81. Sitting on Your Foot	202	(2)
82. Grooming in Public	204	(2)
83. Sitting in Meetings with Your Hands under the Table	206	(2)
84. Wearing Your Reading Glasses around Your Neck	208	(2)
85. Accessorizing Too Much	210	(2)
86. Failing to Maintain Eye Contact	212	(3)
Chapter 8 How You Respond	215	(40)
87. Internalizing Messages	216	(3)
88. Believing Others Know More than You	219	(3)
89. Taking Notes, Getting Coffee, and Making Copies	222	(2)
90. Tolerating Inappropriate Behavior	224	(4)
91. Exhibiting Too Much Patience	228	(2)
92. Accepting Dead-End Assignments	230	(2)
93. Putting the Needs of Others Before Your Own	232	(2)
94. Denying Your Power	234	(3)
95. Allowing Yourself to Be the Scapegoat	237	(2)
96. Accepting the Fait Accompli	239	(3)
97. Permitting Others' Mistakes to Inconvenience You	242	(2)
98. Being the Last to Speak	244	(2)
99. Playing the Gender Card	246	(3)
100. Tolerating Sexual Harassment	249	(2)
101. Crying	251	(4)
Appendix Personal Development Planning and Resources	255