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9781558323261

Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child From Your First Hours Together Through the Teen Years

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  • ISBN13:

    9781558323261

  • ISBN10:

    1558323260

  • Format: Paperback
  • Copyright: 2008-05-07
  • Publisher: Harvard Common Press
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Summary

So demonstrates Patty Cogen, who for the past decade has studied the adjustment and development of internationally adopted children and advised their often-mystified adoptive parents. In Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child, Dr. Cogen explains how and why to help a child cope with grief over the loss of everything and everyone familiar; tell the child's adoption story from the child's rather than the parents' point of view; understand the ways in which a child's development may begin at adoption; handle sleeptime, mealtime, and discipline problems; foster identity and independence in pre-teens and teens; and much more. With advice on language and school difficulties and the development of self-control and independence, Cogen guides adoptive parents from preparations for a child's arrival all the way through the teen years. Book jacket.

Author Biography

Patty Cogen has a doctorate in education and a master's degree in clinical psychology and has taught in both universities and elementary schools. She leads First Year Home groups for adoptive families, and advises parents all over the United States about their internationally adopted children and lectures to organizations across the nation on adoption and child development. She lives with her husband and two children, one of whom was adopted from China.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgmentsp. ix
Introduction: Proactive Parentingp. 1
Understanding Your Child's Behavior- and Misbehavior
"Are You My Mommy? Are You My Daddy?" The Beginnings of Identityp. 9
Differences in Development: Identity, "Attachment," Connection, and Resiliencyp. 15
Identity and Your Child's Complex Backgroundp. 29
Connection, Survival Skills, and Family Skillsp. 36
Resiliency and Reactive Coping Behaviorsp. 50
Memories from a Complex Backgroundp. 63
Key Parenting Strategies
Providing a Framework for Fragmented Memoriesp. 74
The Roots of Identity: We Are Alike, We Are Differentp. 87
Connection Activities and Gamesp. 96
Eye Contact and Face-to-Face Interactionp. 104
Joyful Play, Language, and Connectionp. 111
Sleep, Connection, and Separationp. 127
Teaching Your Child to Self-Soothe and Self-Calmp. 146
Sensory-Motor Integration and Stimulation Managementp. 165
"Ping-Pong" Interactions for Connection and Reconnectionp. 185
Making Rules and Limits Workp. 191
Repairing Disconnection between Child and Parentp. 202
Encouraging Adjustment and Interdependencep. 207
Structuring Transitions, Separations, and Work/Life Decisionsp. 223
As Your Adopted Child Grows Up
Adoption Issues from Three to Five: Questions and Answers about Birth, Past, and Presentp. 236
Adoption Issues from Three to Five: Separation and Reunionp. 242
Adoption Issues from Three to Five: Dictators and Bossesp. 259
Adoption Issues from Six to Nine: Making Choices about Race, Culture, Ethnicity, and Identityp. 273
Adoption Issues from Six to Nine: Creating a Deeper and More Detailed Adoption Storyp. 284
Adoption Issues from Six to Nine: Acting Out, Being "Perfect," and Other Challenging Behaviorsp. 297
Adoption Issues from Ten to Twelve: New Bodies, New Pressuresp. 309
Adoption Issues from Ten to Twelve: Identity Challenged and Reinforcedp. 329
Adoption Issues from Ten to Twelve: Independence without Disconnectionp. 343
Adoption Issues in the Teen Years: In the Shadow of Independencep. 355
Adoption Issues in the Teen Years: How Self-Control Happens, and What to Do When It Does Notp. 369
Adoption Issues in the Teen Years: Mixed Heritages, Fluid Identitiesp. 399
Last Wordsp. 413
Teaching Your Child Your Languagep. 414
Bibliographyp. 417
Indexp. 424
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