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Person to Person : Positive Relationships Don't Just Happen

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Edition:
5th
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9780130995865

ISBN10:
013099586X
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Paperback
Pub. Date:
1/1/2008
Publisher(s):
Prentice Hall
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Summary

For one-term freshman/sophomore-level courses in Human Relations, Interpersonal Relations, or Relationships. Thoroughly grounded in recent psychological and sociological researchand celebrating diversity throughoutthis text goes beyond the typical self-exploration text to provide a complete exploration of interpersonal skills and the process of building relationships. The book focuses on self-awareness and self-esteem as a prelude to the development of positive, effective interpersonal communications skills and healthy, fulfilling professional and personal relationships. It helps students learn to take responsibility for themselves, make wiser choices, improve their relationships, appreciate all kinds of diversity, and live happier, fulfilling, and productive lives. Reflections and Applications sections provide easily accessible, hands-on, user-friendly assignments and activities.

Table of Contents

Preface ix
Acknowledgments x
About the Author xi
Section One Relating: Beginning with the Self 1(166)
Knowing and Valuing Yourself
8(36)
Exploring Developmental Areas of Self
9(7)
Physical Self
9(2)
Mental Self
11(5)
Emotional Self
16(1)
Social Self
16(1)
Integrating Your Whole Self
16(1)
Discovering Your Self-Concept
17(1)
Improving Your Health
18(10)
Physical Activity
19(1)
Nutrition
20(1)
Weight Maintenance
21(2)
Adequate Rest
23(1)
Stress Management
23(5)
Valuing Yourself
28(11)
Effects of Self-Esteem
29(1)
Sources of Self-Esteem
30(5)
Self-Esteem Building and Strengthening
35(4)
Creating A Friend or Foe: Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
39(2)
Relationship Between Thoughts and Behaviors
39(1)
Changes in a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
40(1)
Increasing Your Capabilities: Self-Efficacy
41(2)
Looking Back
43(1)
Resources
43(1)
Understanding Yourself Throughout the Life Span
44(35)
How Does Personality Develop?
45(8)
Influences on Personality
45(1)
Stages of Development
46(5)
Challenges to Personality Development
51(2)
Predictions about Personality
53(1)
Understanding Through Transactional Analysis
53(8)
Ego States
54(3)
Life Positions
57(1)
Life Script
58(1)
Strokes
59(2)
What Is Your Personality Like?
61(6)
Personality Preferences
61(6)
How Does Gender Role Influence Your Life?
67(9)
Gender Differences
68(1)
Gender-Role Stereotypes and Development
69(3)
Disadvantages of Stereotypic Gender Roles
72(3)
Benefits of Androgyny
75(1)
Becoming Assertive
76(2)
Looking Back
78(1)
Exploring Values and Making Wise Choices
79(33)
Where Do Values Originate?
80(2)
How Do Values Develop?
82(7)
Receiving and Learning Values
82(4)
Altering Your Values
86(1)
Evaluating Your Values
87(2)
How Do Morals Develop?
89(1)
How Are Values Transmitted?
90(4)
Recommendations for Values Development
91(3)
Learning to Choose Wisely
94(13)
Taking Control of Your Health and Well-Being
96(7)
Achieving Goals
103(4)
Managing Your Time
107(3)
How to Find Time
107(1)
How to Eliminate Time Wasters
107(1)
How to Use Time Wisely
108(2)
Looking Back
110(1)
Resources
111(1)
Achieving Happiness and Satisfaction
112(23)
What is Happiness?
113(1)
Satisfying One's Needs
113(2)
Hierarchy of Needs
113(1)
Basic Human Needs
114(1)
Removing Obstacles to Happiness
115(3)
Unrealistic Expectations
115(1)
Searching Outside of Self
116(2)
Creating Happiness and Well-Being
118(15)
Cultivate Self-Knowledge, Self-Esteem, and an Optimistic Attitude
118(1)
Have Realistic Expectations
119(2)
Take Responsibility
121(2)
Change Can't and Couldn't Thinking
123(1)
Rethink Should and Shouldn't
124(1)
Concentrate on Positives
125(2)
Seek Alternatives
127(1)
Take Positive Action
127(1)
Avoid Chronic Procrastination
128(2)
Live in the Present
130(1)
Enjoy Life's Pleasures
131(1)
Count Your Blessings
132(1)
Give to Life
132(1)
Develop Nourishing, Rewarding Relationships
132(1)
Looking Back
133(2)
Experiencing and Expressing Emotion
135(32)
Identifying and Categorizing Emotions
136(1)
Expressing Feelings
137(13)
Influences on Emotional Expression
138(5)
Benefits of Constructive Expression
143(3)
Steps to Expressiveness
146(1)
Anger Management
147(3)
Changing What You Feel
150(2)
The Power of Your Thoughts
150(1)
The Power of Your Behavior
151(1)
Seeking Professional Help for Depression
152(3)
Coping with Emotional Crises
155(10)
The Path of Life
155(2)
How to Cope
157(3)
Death: A Universal Crisis
160(5)
Looking Back
165(1)
Resources
166(1)
Section Two Communication: The Key Relationships 167(59)
Becoming a Positive Listener
172(15)
Understanding the Art of Listening
172(2)
The Why of Listening
173(1)
The Importance of Listening
173(1)
How and Where Listening Is Learned
174(1)
Removing Barriers in the Listening Process
174(2)
Preoccupation or Lack of Interest
175(1)
Environmental Factors
175(1)
Psychological Filter
175(1)
Emotions
176(1)
Rate Differences
176(1)
Negative Intentions
176(1)
Improving Listening Behaviors
176(5)
Open and Attentive Body Position
176(1)
Positive Eye Contact
177(1)
Facial Expression
177(1)
Head and Body Movements
178(1)
Touching
178(1)
Verbal Responses
178(2)
Elimination of Negative Listening Behaviors
180(1)
Using Different Types of Listening
181(5)
Empathic Listening
181(1)
Receptive Listening
182(3)
Directive Listening
185(1)
Looking Back
186(1)
Improving Communication: How to Send Messages
187(15)
Improving Your Verbalizing Style
187(6)
Closed and Open Communication
188(5)
Becoming an Effective Communicator
193(3)
Directness
193(1)
Straightforwardness
193(1)
Clarity
194(1)
Immediacy
194(1)
Supportiveness
195(1)
Efficiency and Sharing
195(1)
Recognizing the Importance of Paralanguage and Body Language
196(5)
What is Paralanguage?
196(1)
Effects of Paralanguage
197(1)
Components of Body Language
197(2)
Importance and Interpretation of Body Language
199(2)
Looking Back
201(1)
Improving Communication: What to Say
202(24)
Understanding Content
202(4)
Levels of Content
203(1)
Awareness of Content
203(3)
Revealing Yourself: Self-Disclosure
206(5)
Degrees of Self-Disclosure
207(1)
Awareness and Sharing
208(1)
Benefits of Self-Disclosure
209(1)
Obstacles to Self-Disclosure
210(1)
How to Self-Disclose
211(1)
Giving and Receiving Compliments
211(2)
Recommendations for Giving Compliments
212(1)
Responding to Compliments
212(1)
Checking Your Perception
213(3)
Effects on Perception
214(1)
Perception Checking as a Communication Technique
215(1)
Using Dimensions of Awareness
216(1)
Delivering Criticism
217(1)
Responding Effectively
218(6)
Inappropriate Responses to Criticism
218(1)
Positive Responses to Criticism
219(3)
Effective Responses to Metamessages
222(1)
Ways of Responding to Offensive Language Patterns
222(1)
Verbal Abuse: What to Do
223(1)
Looking Back
224(2)
Section Three Positive Relationships: The Ultimate Achievement 226(153)
Building Positive Relationships
229(34)
Creating Healthy Relationships
229(6)
Features of a Healthy Relationship
229(4)
Positive Interactions
233(2)
Examining Various Types of Relationships
235(3)
Acquaintances
235(1)
Friendships
235(2)
Support Groups
237(1)
Caregiving
238(1)
Initiating Interactions
238(10)
Open-Mindedness
238(1)
Tolerance, Acceptance, and Appreciation
239(5)
How to Approach and Converse with Others
244(4)
Connecting with Others
248(1)
Attraction and Liking
248(1)
Improving Relationships
249(11)
Realistic Expectations of Relationships
250(1)
Sensitivity and Cooperation
250(1)
Assertiveness
250(1)
Negotiation Skills
251(1)
Difficult People
252(3)
Supportiveness
255(4)
Sincere Expression
259(1)
Answering the Challenge of Relationships
260(1)
Looking Back
261(1)
Resources
262(1)
Succeeding in Your Career
263(18)
Seeking Satisfaction in Career and Jobs
264(3)
Career Choice
264(2)
Selection of a Job
266(1)
Identifying Desirable Personal Qualities and Work Habits
267(3)
Choosing Wisely: From the Job Search to Retirement
270(5)
The Search Itself
270(2)
Your Career Path
272(3)
Enjoying Relationships at Work
275(4)
Personality Types at Work
275(1)
Positive Relations
276(3)
Looking Back
279(1)
Resources
280(1)
Developing and Enriching Intimate Relationships
281(55)
What Is Love?
282(1)
Identifying Obstacles to Love and Intimacy
282(5)
Low Self-Esteem
282(2)
Extensive Giving and Addiction
284(2)
Love Schemas
286(1)
Fear of Risks
286(1)
Lack of Knowledge
287(1)
Recognizing Different Types of Love
287(11)
Passionate Love
287(5)
Intimate Love
292(6)
Building Intimacy
298(3)
What Is Intimacy?
298(1)
Development of Intimacy
298(3)
Managing Conflict
301(3)
Unfair Fighting Styles
301(1)
Fair Fighting
302(2)
Enriching a Relationship
304(2)
Seeking Sexual Fulfillment
306(5)
Sexual Behaviors
307(1)
Sexual Enrichment
308(3)
Living Together
311(3)
Who Lives Together and Why?
311(1)
Living Arrangements
312(2)
Choosing to Marry
314(5)
Definitions and Images of Marriage
314(1)
Types of Marriage
315(2)
Preparation for Marriage
317(2)
Succeeding in Marriage and Other Committed Relationships
319(10)
Success Factors: Questions to Ask
319(9)
Marital Enrichment
328(1)
Ending Relationships
329(4)
Reasons for Seeking an End
329(1)
Counseling as an Alternative
330(1)
Letting Go
331(2)
Looking Back
333(2)
Resources
335(1)
Strengthening Family Relationships
336(43)
Exploring Families
337(1)
Parenting in a Positive Way
337(22)
The Decision to Parent
338(1)
Parent Education
339(1)
Goals of Child Raising
340(1)
Responsibilities of Parenting
341(6)
A Special Word to Fathers
347(1)
Discipline and Its Multifaceted Dimensions
348(6)
Positive Parenting Behaviors
354(5)
Enjoying the Role of Grandparent
359(1)
Understanding and Appreciating Family Diversity
360(16)
Dual-Earner Households
360(1)
Gay and Lesbian Households
361(2)
Adoptive Households
363(1)
Divorced Households
363(5)
Single-Parent Households
368(2)
Stepfamily Households
370(6)
Looking Back
376(2)
Resources
378(1)
References 379(28)
Reflections and Applications 407(36)
Index 443

Excerpts

Person to Person: Positive Relationships Don't Just Happen,Fourth Edition is intended to encourage and guide you on a journey, first within yourself and then into the world of positive interactions and relationships. Ann Landers once wrote: "Life is peculiar. It waits until we flunk the course and then it teaches us the lesson." All of us will make mistakes during our lives; however, the fewer "courses we flunk," the better. This book, whether you read it as part of your formal education or just for personal reasons, can help you make wise choices and live a happier, more fulfilling life. Building a positive relationship isn't an accident; each one requires understanding and effort. Relating with people is an art to be learned and practiced. Because the self is the foundation of all relationships, the goals of the first part of the book are self-discovery and self-satisfaction, with an emphasis on heightened self-esteem, ability to make wise choices, and increased happiness and well-being. Because through interpersonal communication human beings interact and relate to one another, it is essential to learn how to communicate in a positive way--the objective of the second part of this book. Only after you have learned to love yourself and then develop effective communication skills is success in relationships probable. The last part of this book teaches about various interactions and all kinds of relationships. Career, love, couple relationships, marriage, and family are given special emphasis. More than ever, the workplace demands interpersonal and communication skills. This book can assist its readers in all walks of life and can help us live positively in a world of diversity. Sadly, yet importantly, the incomprehensible tragedy involving the terrorist hijacking of airliners and the subsequent attacks on the World Trade Center in New York City and the Pentagon in' Washington, D. C., on September 11, 2001, occurred while I was working on this edition. Even more than ever I am convinced that the world needs acceptance and appreciation of diversity, love and respect for human life, and the finest of interpersonal relations skills. Remember that each of us can be a candle that enlightens the world. Features of this book include: "Looking Ahead" objectives so that you know what is important; "Reflect and Apply" mini-sections to stimulate thoughts and actions that will make the learning more personal; "Looking Back" summaries and listings of resources for your use; suggested readings marked in the References to encourage further exploration; Reflections and Applications, a separate section at the back of the book that you are encouraged to complete. Edmund Burke, a philosopher, said, "To read without reflecting is like eating without ingesting." Please read and reflect! The more you "get into it," the more you will gain. At the end of the book you can be satisfied that you have become better educated about yourself and life. Hopefully, you will have a clear vision of what you want, a realistic idea of how to satisfy your goals, and the positive attitude and high self-esteem needed to achieve harmony and happiness. The realization that life has an ebb and flow can enable you to live life to its fullest with purpose and meaning and to reflect on your past while looking forward optimistically to continued growth and achievement. If the book does for you what it has for others, I'll be delighted. Several people have credited the book for making their lives much more positive. A student commented: "Thanks so much for my first real lessons about life. I'll never forget it. Now to put it all into practice . . . I can't wait!" I hope that you, too, will learn, grow, and benefit, and then put all you have gained into practice. Do experience joy along the way!


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