Splitting

by Eddy, Bill; Kreger, Randi

• ISBN13: 9781608820252
• ISBN10: 1608820254
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2011-07-01
• Publisher: New Harbinger Pubns Inc

Summary

- Randi Kreger has sold more nearly 10,000 copies of the self-published version of Splitting through her website, www.bpdcentral.com.- Nearly half of all marriages in the U.S. end in divorce and approximately 6 million American adults have borderline personality disorder or BPD.- Bill Eddy is a family attorney and a licensed clinical social worker. Randi Kreger?s book, Stop Walking on Eggshells (ISBN: 978-1-57224-690-4), has sold nearly 500,000 copies. Her website, www.bpdcentral.com, receives over 25,000 hits per month.Divorce is difficult under the best of circumstances. Dealing with this inherently adversarial process can be highly emotional on both sides. But when a divorcing individual is a "persuasive blamer" someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or simply has a high-conflict, manipulative personality - their behavior can have devastating ramifications for their former spouses. Splitting is a legal and psychological guidebook that everyone seeking a divorce from a persuasive blamer should own. Written by Bill Eddy, a family lawyer, divorce mediator, and experienced social worker, and Randi Kreger, BPD expert and author of the bestselling Stop Walking on Eggshells, it offers readers help for navigating the entire process of divorce: hiring and managing a divorce lawyer, reaching a reasonable settlement, protecting oneself and one's children from emotional and/or physical abuse from the former spouse, resisting false accusations, and getting enforceable court orders. The book also delves into the difficult-to-understand, aggressive behavior of persuasive blamers, offering readers psychological explanations for their former spouse's actions and help for coping emotionally with the spouse's extreme mood swings and impulsivity.

Author Biography

Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, is a family lawyer, therapist, senior family mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego, CA, and the president of the High Conflict Institute based in Scottsdale, AZ. Randi Kreger owns and maintains www.bpdcentral.com and the Welcome to Oz family community. She is coauthor of Stop Walking on Eggshells and The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and author of The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder. She lives in Milwaukee, WI.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	p. v
Introduction	p. 1
Quick-Start Guide	p. 7
Preparing for a Difficult Divorce
Preparing Yourself	p. 13
Understanding Borderline and Narcissistic Personalities	p. 25
Blamers and Targets: It's All Your Fault!	p. 43
Managing a Blamer with an Assertive Approach	p. 69
Preparing for a Court Battle with a Blamer	p. 89
Succeeding in Family Court
Today's Divorce Court Culture	p. 109
Hiring a Lawyer Who Understands	p. 137
Working with Your Lawyer to Handle Predictable Crises	p. 147
Gathering Evidence About Your Blamer's Private Persona	p. 135
Working with Experts and Evaluators	p. 169
What to Expect from the Blamer's Attorney	p. 191
What to Expect at a Hearing or Trial with a Blamer	p. 203
Succeeding Out of Court
Considering Alternatives to Litigation with a Blamer	p. 225
Managing the Rocky Postdivorce Relationship	p. 247
Conclusion	p. 271
Appendix: Open Letters to Professionals, and Family and Friends	p. 277
Resources	p. 285
References	p. 289
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