The Verbally Abusive Relationship

by Evans, Patricia

• ISBN13: 9781440504631
• ISBN10: 1440504636
• Edition: 3rd
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2010-01-18
• Publisher: Adams Media Corp

Summary

In this fully expanded and updated third edition of the bestselling classic, you learn why verbal abuse is more widespread than ever, and how you can deal with it. You'll get more of the answers you need to recognize abuse when it happens, respond to abusers safely and appropriately, and most important, lead a happier, healthier life.

In two all new chapters, Evans reveals the Outside Stresses driving the rise in verbal abuse and shows you how you can mitigate the devastating effects on your relationships. She also outlines the Levels of Abuse that characterize this kind of behavior from subtle, insidious put downs that can erode your self esteem to full out tantrums of name calling, screaming, and threatening that can escalate into physical abuse.

Drawing from hundreds of real situations suffered by real people just like you, Evans offers strategies, sample scripts, and action plans designed to help you deal with the abuse and the abuser.

This timely new edition of The Verbally Abusive Relationship, Expanded Third Edition puts you on the road to recognizing and responding to verbal abuse, one crucial step at a time!

"The book that helped change Brandy's life." -Oprah.com

"A groundbreaking book" -Newsweek

"A great, great book." -Sonya Friedman, CNN

Author Biography

Patricia evans is the bestselling author of four books including the verbally abusive Relationship, Verbal abuse Survivors Speak Out, controlling People, and the Verbally Abusive Man: Can He Change? A highly acclaimed interpersonal communications specialist, public speaker, and consultant, Evans has appeared on Oprah, CNNNn National radio, and in Newsweek and O, The Oprah Magazine. Evans lives in the San Francisco Bay area and can be reached via her website at www.VerbolAbuse.com.

Table of Contents

Foreword	p. 9
Introduction	p. 15
Evaluating Your Own Experience	p. 21
Two Kinds of Power: A Broad Perspective	p. 27
Personal Power: A Look At Reality H	p. 33
The Abuser and the Abusive Relationship: A Look At Reality	p. 37
The Consequences of Verbal Abuse	p. 47
The Partner's Feelings	p. 55
Obstcles and Indicators	p. 65
Characteristics and categoriesof Verbal Abuse	p. 77
The Anger Addict the Anger Addict	p. 101
Conditioning and the partner	p. 107
The Recognition of verbal abuse and Asking for change	p. 113
Responding With impact to verbal Abuse	p. 129
Recovery	p. 149
Looking back	p. 155
The underlying Dynamics: The Underlying Dynamics: Some Reasons Why	p. 163
Stress And Verbal Abuse	p. 173
Irrational Behavior to the extreme	p. 187
About therapy--and for therapist	p. 197
Children and verbal abuse	p. 211
Conclusion
Where do we go from Here?	p. 221
Frequently Asked questions	p. 224
Bibliography	p. 229
Survey	p. 233
Index	p. 237
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