All the Joy You Can Stand : 101 Sacred Power Principles for Making Joy Real in Your Life

by Gandy, Debrena Jackson

• ISBN13: 9780609605981
• ISBN10: 0609605984
• eBook ISBN(s): 9780307419743
• Edition: 1st
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2000-06-01
• Publisher: Crown Pub

Summary

As a successful writer, keynote speaker, consultant, and seminar leader, Debrena Jackson Gandy has helped thousands of African-American women access their inner power and live life more joyfully and boldly.All the Joy You Can Stand: 101 Sacred Power Principles for Making Joy Real in Your Lifeis the eagerly anticipated follow-up to her best-seller,Sacred Pampering Principles. This engaging, thought-provoking book features 101 Power Principles that will help you tap into what brings you joy in your life and give you the spiritual tools to manifest the desires of your heart, including how to:Discover Your Sacred SelfStrengthen Your Gratitude MusclesIntegrate Renewal Into Your LifeBe a Sensuous WomanFree Your Creative GeniusCultivate Your IntuitionBecome a Spiritual GardenerBe the Architect of Your LifeExpand Your Joy Threshold Using insightful stories from her own life, as well as the lives of her readers, friends, and seminar and lecture participants, Debrena Jackson Gandy has written an uplifting and transformational get-real guide for women who want to develop their spiritual strength and actualize their divine potential. Whether it's freeing your spirit by learning to release and forgive, or discovering how to more gracefully move through life's cycles and seasons, here are proven answers for some of life's most difficult questions. Prepare to be challenged and to ask yourself, "How much joy can I stand?" For as Debrena says, the more joy you can stand, the more joy God gives you.

Author Biography

Debrena Jackson Gandy contributes to <i>Essence</i>, <i>Heart & Soul</i>, and other publications and is the founder of For Sisters Only: Sharing, Healing, and Renewal, an annual women's empowerment retreat. She leads seminars and workshops around the country on sacred pampering and joyful living.

Table of Contents

Preface	xv
Introduction	xvii
Power Principles
Clear the silt	1	(3)
Learn self-love	4	(3)
Make space	7	(2)
Free up energy in your life	9	(2)
Manage your energy	11	(6)
Know what brings you joy	17	(4)
Feed what you value	21	(5)
Invest your energy in what brings you joy	26	(2)
Learn to hold still	28	(3)
Simplify your life	31	(3)
Solitary refinement	34	(3)
Get back to nature	37	(4)
Take a personal retreat	41	(3)
Practice self-care first	44	(3)
Plug your energy leaks	47	(4)
Get ready, get set, grow!	51	(2)
The pleasure principle	53	(4)
Know the source of your personal power	57	(3)
Define yourself	60	(3)
Discover your sacred self	63	(2)
Adjust your attitude	65	(2)
Be present	67	(3)
Pay attention	70	(2)
Get conscious about your B.S. (belief system)	72	(4)
Demonstrate spiritual humility	76	(1)
Change channels	77	(3)
Be aligned	80	(4)
Tell the truth	84	(3)
Get clear first	87	(4)
Purge and cleanse	91	(3)
Write on	94	(3)
Body esteem	97	(4)
Your body is a communication tool	101	(2)
What you feel you can heal	103	(3)
Create sacred spaces and places	106	(1)
Move more	107	(2)
Forgive yourself	109	(5)
Forgive others	114	(3)
Go with the flow	117	(5)
Surrender to divine order	122	(3)
Ride through the funk	125	(3)
Call your spirit back	128	(3)
Get grounded. Find your center	131	(3)
Let go	134	(3)
Evolve, release, or complete it	137	(5)
Face your fears	142	(4)
Exile guilt	146	(1)
Don't complain	147	(3)
Suspend judgement	150	(4)
Give and receive graciously	154	(2)
Ask and you shall receive	156	(3)
Is it fit or a force?	159	(2)
Choice vs. reaction	161	(3)
Change it	164	(2)
Claim your gramlins	166	(3)
That which you are seeking is also seeking you	169	(2)
You can love from a distance	171	(4)
Turning points	175	(2)
Life cycles and seasons	177	(3)
Become a spiritual gardener	180	(3)
What the world needs now	183	(4)
Create intimacy with sisterfriends	187	(2)
Fine your power pack	189	(2)
Pray and meditate	191	(4)
Cultivate your intuition	195	(2)
Understand the power of your spoken word	197	(4)
Insperience it	201	(4)
Be the architect of your life	205	(2)
Master manifestation	207	(3)
Redefine success	210	(1)
Rewrite the script	211	(2)
See your life as an unfolding story	213	(4)
Balance yourself	217	(2)
Recognize your gifts, talents, skills, and abilities	219	(4)
Know your ministry	223	(1)
Answer your calling	224	(3)
Free your creative genius	227	(1)
Appreciate your spiritual gifts	228	(2)
Strengthen your gratitude muscles	230	(2)
Listen carefully	232	(4)
Leap and the net will appear	236	(1)
Make powerful exits	237	(2)
Blessings in disguise	239	(4)
Traveling rules for life's journey	243	(2)
Your everyday survival kit	245	(1)
Life learning	246	(3)
Tune in to radio station WGOD	249	(1)
Develop your prosperity consciousness	250	(4)
Be power-full	254	(2)
In-power your children	256	(4)
Become good friends with the ``RE'' sisters	260	(3)
Integrate renewal into your life	263	(1)
Become a sensuous woman	264	(2)
Be hold, bodacious, and succulent (BBS)	266	(2)
Belly laugh	268	(1)
No more jerky moves	269	(2)
Celebrate	271	(1)
Build your own powerhouse	272	(2)
Be ready	274	(2)
Expand your joy threshold	276	(1)
Embrace your power	277

Excerpts

In many ways, this book is a sequel to my first, Sacred Pampering Principles: An African-American Woman's Guide to Self-Care and Inner Renewal. It is a spiritual synthesis of my "learnings," insights, peaks, valleys, and triumphs and challenges on the journey to finding and expressing my own joy and sacred power.

I teach, speak, and write about joy, peace, power, ease, and grace because I am learning to bring them more fully into my own life, not because I have mastered them. And to the degree that I have been able to make them a reality in my life, part of my life's work is helping other women make them realities in their lives also.

Over these past few years, especially since becoming a national author, I've been striving to fulfill a pact I made with myself and God -- to practice what I teach, to have my life represent a possibility of "having it all" with ease and grace. I didn't just want to write about it. I wanted to live it, using my life as the testing ground, the practice field, the living laboratory.

Over the course of the personal self-care journey that led up to my writing Sacred Pampering Principles, I sought to live-the-talk, walk-the-walk, and integrate into my life and spirit what evolved into the 24 sacred pampering principles that became the foundation of this first book. As each of these principles started to take root and become real in my life, I could feel myself starting to change -- in a very, very good way. I could feel something starting to percolate and bubble up from a place deep down inside of me, something that felt like it had been trapped and held captive for a long, long time.

I've come to realize on my spiritual path that sacred pampering is a mind-set, a new paradigm, and a way of life, not just something I do. Yes, when I first started down the sacred pampering path, I thought pampering was about taking more bubble baths and treating myself to more pedicures, massages, and facials. I thought it was about eating more nutritiously, being sure I got my exercise, making "me time" a priority, and doing more activities that I really liked. At that time in my life, I thought pampering and self-care was only about outer grooming and doing a better job taking care of my body. I've come to realize that this is a very small slice of it, but by no means all of it. Sacred pampering means something much more, much deeper. It means living life from a place and in a way that nourishes and renews your mind, body, and spirit ongoingly.

Sacred pampering, as I define it, is about (1) aligning your life with what brings you joy; (2) choosing to do what energizes and renews you; and (3) doing what nurtures and fortifies your mind, body, and spirit. Sacred means "important, highly valued, worthy of reverence and respect." So sacred pampering is about honoring and practicing self-care first, instead of last or least.

Little by little on my journey, I discovered that as I made sacred pampering a way of life and as I started aligning my actions, interactions, choices, and behavior with what brought me joy, I started triggering a release of power from within that seemed to have been buried. I was becoming more and more aware of a deep inner reserve of power that I didn't even know was there. I was coming to realize that pampering was but the beginning of the journey, not the final destination.

Making sacred pampering an integral part of how I live and move through life has not been easy, because it has required personal transformation. I've had to roll up my sleeves to do some serious spiritual and emotional housecleaning. I've had to clean out old beliefs, behaviors, and words, and get rid of the clutter, chaos, confusion, and stinkin' thinkin' that lingered in the hard-to-reach nooks and crannies of my life. Making the shift from self-care last to embodying a self-care first approach to living has required that I overhaul and reshape how I use my energy, and how I see my life, myself, and my body. Making sacred pampering real in my life completed just the first phase of my personal transformation process. The next part of the process involved my more fully accessing, channeling, and expressing the inner power that was itching to be released and set free.

And I wasn't alone. As I read letter after letter and card after card sent from readers of Sacred Pampering Principles from all across the country, other women shared that they, too, were experiencing something similar -- a bubbling up of something inside as they started internalizing and applying the sacred pampering principles to their lives. As they began to integrate the principles, they, too, began to experience this awakening of a deeper inner power and inner joy.

It was at the fifth session of the Annual African-American Women's Advance (not retreat) in 1998, For Sisters Only: Sharing, Healing and Renewal, for which I am founder and executive director, that I finally made up my mind to write about this power and joy I was (re)discovering and beginning to set free. During the opening circle of introductions, I listened intently as each woman shared what compelled her to attend this transformational, all-sistahs event. I listened as a common theme began to emerge from this diverse cross-section of women who were attending from the local Seattle area and from cities across the country, and who ranged in age from 25 to 70. Women felt disconnected from their power and were hungry for reconnection. They came to the event with a spiritual thirst; they wanted to feed their spirits; they wanted to drill deep and tap into their well of sacred inner power and joy that they knew was there but didn't know how to fully reach. They came to the Advance hoping that this experience would help them reach it. It did then and continues to do so for the women who attend.

It was then and there, as I sat in the opening session of the Advance listening carefully to women share their stories of what brought them to this event, that I decided that my next book, the one you are now holding, would guide women on a journey of, one, accessing and expressing their sacred power, and two, of experiencing more real joy in their lives. I've learned that our sacred power naturally emerges when we reconnect and get in synch with the positive energy force of life. Our sacred power is divine power that seeks to be expressed -- and indeed, must be expressed if we want to experience a more deeply fulfilling life.

My hope is that as you journey through the pages of this book you will  begin to understand what is at the essence of being able to manifest the desires of your heart, and you will get clear on what has been getting in your way. You will begin to see joy as the natural expression of your spirit, and power as your ability to affect and shape yourself and your reality.

Remember this: you were created to play big, not small. Playing big is your innate and inherent right -- your birthright. All the Joy You Can Stand introduces you to dimensions of your joy and sacred power that, until now, may have been partially hidden, buried, or eluding you. All the Joy You Can Stand invites you to blow the lid off, to play bigger and to more fully step into your joy, your power, and your greatness.

God heaps on you all the joy you can stand, but we keep giving God an itsy-bitsy cup to fill. So if you want more but aren't experiencing and receiving more, it's you limiting you, not God limiting you. I invite you to trade in your cup for a bucket.

I pray that you accept my invitation.

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Excerpted from All the Joy You Can Stand: 101 Sacred Power Principles for Making Joy Real in Your Life by Debrena Jackson Gandy
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