Becoming Aware : A Text/Workbook for Human Relations and Personal Adjustment

by Walker, Velma; Brokaw, Lynn

• ISBN13: 9780787293284
• ISBN10: 0787293288
• Edition: 8th
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2001-06-01
• Publisher: Kendall Hunt Pub Co

Table of Contents

Preface	ix
Acknowledgments	xv
Introduction	xvii
Getting Acquainted with Ourselves and Others	1	(60)
Self-Discovery	2	(1)
Self-Disclosure	3	(4)
The Johari Window	7	(3)
Loneliness	10	(2)
What Should a Relationship Provide?	12	(4)
The Fear of Getting Acquainted	16	(5)
Perceptual Awareness	21	(1)
People Perception	21	(12)
Can I Change My Image?	33	(2)
Developing New Relationships	35	(4)
Chapter Review	39	(4)
Activities	43	(18)
Self-Awareness	61	(60)
``Self-Image'' Development	62	(1)
Significant Others	63	(3)
Personality Development	66	(2)
Erikson's Eight Stages of Psychosocial Development	68	(3)
Stages of Adult Development	71	(7)
Carl Rogers: Self-Theory	78	(1)
Viktor Frankl: Search for Meaning	78	(1)
Virginia Satir: Self-Worth	79	(2)
How Do Our Thoughts and Our Environment Relate to the Development of Our Personality?	81	(1)
How Did I Get to Be the Person I Am Today?	81	(2)
Cognitive and Social-Learning Theories	83	(4)
The Self	87	(1)
Find Your Real Self	88	(1)
How We Get Our Self-Image from Others?	89	(2)
Self-Esteem	91	(1)
Individualism vs Collectivism	91	(7)
The Journey	98	(1)
Chapter Review	99	(4)
Activities	103	(18)
Who's in Control?	121	(54)
Self-Control or External Control	122	(1)
Are You an Internal or External?	123	(1)
Perceived Control or Lack of Control	124	(1)
Outcome	125	(1)
Who's in Control?	125	(7)
Social Learning Theory	132	(1)
How Does Learning Theory Influence Your Life?	133	(1)
What Gets Your Attention?	133	(3)
Learning Theory	136	(1)
Why Do I Hate Peas?	136	(1)
Classical Conditioning	137	(3)
We Learn from Our Experience	140	(1)
What Are the Consequences?	141	(4)
What Kind of Reinforcement Do You Use?	145	(1)
Self-Control in Everyday Living	145	(1)
A Self-Change Program	145	(4)
Just Do It!	149	(2)
Chapter Review	151	(4)
Activities	155	(20)
Dealing with Emotions	175	(52)
What Are Emotions?	176	(1)
Characteristics of Emotions	177	(3)
Types of Emotions	180	(2)
Living with Problem Emotions	182	(12)
Development of Emotions	194	(1)
Emotional Intelligence	195	(1)
The Costs of Denying Emotions	196	(2)
Getting Out of Emotional Debt	198	(1)
Guidelines for Dealing with Your Emotions	199	(2)
Understanding Culture and Emotion	201	(1)
Benefits of Expressing Your Feelings	201	(2)
Forgiveness---The Healing Process	203	(4)
Chapter Review	207	(4)
Activities	211	(16)
Interpersonal Communication	227	(52)
Why Do We Need to Communicate?	228	(1)
Why Is Communication Difficult?	229	(1)
What Is Involved in the Communication Process?	230	(2)
One- and Two-Way Communication	232	(1)
Nonverbal Communication	233	(8)
Verbal Communication	241	(2)
Gender and Communication	243	(2)
Listening (What Did You Say?)	245	(1)
Barriers to Listening	246	(2)
Styles of Responding	248	(5)
Active Listening---Empathetic Listening	253	(3)
Which Style of Responding Do You Use?	256	(1)
Person-to-Person Communication	256	(3)
Chapter Review	259	(4)
Activities	263	(16)
Developing Close Relationships	279	(62)
The Development of a Relationship	280	(1)
Becoming Friends	281	(6)
Dating and Mating	287	(3)
What about Love?	290	(1)
Becoming Lovers	291	(8)
Becoming Committed	299	(5)
Marital Adjustment	304	(4)
Parenthood and Career	308	(2)
Communication Problems	310	(2)
Family Violence	312	(1)
Codependence	312	(3)
What's the Green-Eyed Monster?	315	(1)
Growing Apart	316	(5)
Chapter Review	321	(4)
Activities	325	(16)
Resolving Interpersonal Conflict	341	(56)
What Is Conflict?	342	(1)
What Causes Conflict?	342	(1)
The Realities of Conflict	343	(1)
Positive Effects of Conflict	344	(1)
Negative Effects of Conflict	345	(1)
What Is Involved in a Conflict Situation?	345	(1)
The Dimensions of Conflict	346	(1)
The Emotions (Feelings) Have Priority	347	(1)
Dealing with the Emotional Dimension	347	(1)
What Is Your Style of Conflict Management?	348	(2)
Behavior Styles	350	(3)
The Styles in Action	353	(2)
Learning to Be Assertive	355	(2)
Suggestions for Delivering an Assertive ``I'' Message	357	(1)
Gender and Conflict Management	358	(2)
Culture and Conflict Management	360	(1)
Methods of Conflict Resolution	361	(3)
Steps for Win-Win Conflict Resolution	364	(3)
When Conflicts Cannot Be Resolved?	367	(4)
Chapter Review	371	(4)
Activities	375	(22)
Managing Stress and Wellness	397	(52)
What Is Stress?	399	(1)
Types of Stress	399	(1)
Causes of Stress	400	(3)
The Effects of Stress	403	(1)
Physical Effects of Stress	404	(1)
Behavioral Effects of Stress	405	(1)
Personality Types	406	(2)
Negative and Defensive Coping	408	(2)
Gender, Culture and Stress	410	(1)
What Effects the Way Individuals Cope with Stress?	411	(3)
Dealing with Stressful Thoughts and Feelings	414	(1)
The Power of Self-Talk	414	(1)
What Is the Difference in Irrational and Rational Beliefs---Self-Talk?	415	(1)
Characteristics of Irrational and Rational Self-Talk	416	(3)
Disputing Irrational Beliefs	419	(1)
20 Tips for Managing Stress	420	(4)
The Relaxation Response	424	(1)
Chapter Review	425	(4)
Activities	429	(20)
Meaning and Values	449	(44)
What Are Values?	450	(2)
Types of Values	452	(1)
How Do Values Develop?	453	(1)
The Influence of Other Factors	454	(3)
What Are My Values?	457	(2)
Classifying Your Personal Values	459	(1)
Clarifying Your Personal Values	460	(3)
Value Indicators	463	(1)
Values Testing Through Goal Setting	463	(2)
We Learn to Value What We Suffer For	465	(1)
Living with Your Values	466	(2)
The Importance of Meaning and Purpose	468	(3)
Chapter Review	471	(4)
Activities	475	(18)
Where Do I Want To Go With My Life?	493	(44)
Learning to Take Risks	494	(1)
What Motivates You?	495	(2)
Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs	497	(2)
Plan Your Life Like You Would a Vacation	499	(2)
Setting Your Goals: What Do You Want?	501	(1)
Contributors to Success	502	(4)
The Time in Your Life	506	(3)
Culture and the Organization of Time	509	(1)
Creating Harmony in Your Life	509	(3)
Effective Life Planning: It's All Up to You!	512	(1)
Happiness and Well-Being	513	(1)
Myths about Happiness	514	(1)
Who Is Happiest?	515	(1)
Ways to Be Happy	516	(2)
Chapter Review	518	(3)
Activities	521	(16)
References	537	(12)
Glossary	549	(12)
Index	561