Being in Love: Therapeutic Pathways Through Psychological Obstacles to Love

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  • Edition: 1st
  • Format: Hardcover
  • Copyright: 2008-07-14
  • Publisher: Routledge

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Finding true love is a journey of transformation obstructed by numerous psychological obstacles. Being in Loveexpands the traditional field of psychoanalytic couple therapy, and explores therapeutic methods of working through the obstacles leading to true love. Becoming who we are is an inherently relational journey: we uncover our truest nature and become most authentically real through the difficult and fearful, yet transformative intersubjective crucibles of our intimate relationships. In this book, Judith Pickering draws comparisons between Bion's concept of becoming in O, and being in love. She searches for pathways that lead away from relational confusion towards the discovery of genuine transformational relationships, and works towards finding better ways of relating to one another. This is achieved by encouraging couples to enjoy the actual presence, humanity, otherness and particularity of each other rather than expecting a partner to conform to our own expectations, projections, desires and presuppositions. Pickering draws on clinical material, contemporary psychoanalysis, cultural themes from the worlds of mythology and literature, and a wealth of therapeutic techniques in this fresh approach to couple therapy. Being in Lovewill therefore interest students and practitioners of psychoanalysis, psychology, and couple therapy, as well as all of those seeking to be more authentic in their relationships.

Author Biography

Judith Pickering is a psychoanalytic couple therapist, Jungian analyst and psychoanalytic psychotherapist in private practice in Sydney. She is a senior supervisor and lecturer for the Australia and New Zealand Association of Psychotherapy. She is a member of The Australian and New Zealand Association of Jungian Analysts and the International Association for Analytical Psychology

Table of Contents

What is love?p. ix
Acknowledgementsp. xiii
Being in lovep. 1
Prelude - shooting the albatrossp. 3
Introduction: a question of true love?p. 5
Love's many facetsp. 18
The marriage of alterity and altruismp. 38
Subject relationsp. 53
Falling in love: an exogamous initiationp. 65
The path of love: an obstacle coursep. 81
Love's therapeuticsp. 83
Love's uncanny choicesp. 96
Veils of projectionp. 104
Relational configurationsp. 120
Interlocking scenes: a malignant dowryp. 131
A hall of mirrorsp. 151
The narcissism of Echop. 165
Thresholds of intimacy: Bluebeard's Castlep. 182
Don't look back: Orpheus and Eurydicep. 191
Transformations in lovep. 209
Exogamy: a marriage of all lovesp. 211
The iconoclasm of Joyp. 227
Laetitia, liveliness and lovep. 238
Aletheia: becoming in lovep. 247
Bibliographyp. 251
Indexp. 264
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