Beyond the Chuppah A Jewish Guide to Happy Marriages

by Crohn, Joel; Markman, Howard J.; Blumberg, Susan L.; Levine, Janice R.

• ISBN13: 9780787960421
• ISBN10: 078796042X
• Edition: 1st
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2001-12-13
• Publisher: Jossey-Bass

Summary

Combining traditional Jewish wisdom with the most up-to-date scientific research on long-lasting relationships, Beyond the Chuppah is a hands-on guide for enriching Jewish and interfaith relationships. Based on the proven Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program (PREP), the book shows couples how to recognize the special issues that are unique to Jewish and interfaith relationships and learn the skills they need to create a marriage that's intimate, loving, and fun. Using the practical tools found in this book, Jewish couples will discover how to "fight right" to resolve conflicts, improve their communication skills, do what's right for the children, and, most of all, appreciate the pleasure of each other's company.

Author Biography

Joel Crohn, Ph.D., is a trained PREP psychologist who specializes in working with Jewish and interfaith couples and is the author of Mixed Matches. Howard Markman, Ph.D., and Susan Blumberg, Ph.D., are marital experts who wrote the best-selling book Fighting for Your Marriage. Janice Levine, Ph.D., is a Jewish PREP trainer and therapist who teaches at Harvard Medical School.

Table of Contents

Foreword	ix
Rabbi Harold M. Schulweis
Acknowledgments	xi
Introduction: Why Is This Book Different from	xiii
All Other Books?
Creating a Positive Jewish Identity That Supports Your Marriage	1	(24)
Four Key Patterns That Can Harm a Relationship	25	(28)
Changing Roles, Changing Rules: Men and Women in Conflict	53	(16)
Communicating Clearly and Safely: The Speaker-Listener Technique	69	(28)
Problem Solving	97	(24)
Ground Rules for Handling Conflict	121	(12)
The Difference Between Issues and Events	133	(24)
Unfulfilled Expectations and What to Do About Them	157	(20)
Choosing Commitment	177	(22)
The Importance of Core Belief Systems: Judaism, Intermarriage, and Community	199	(22)
Atonement, Forgiveness, and the Restoration of Intimacy	221	(24)
Preserving and Protecting Friendship	245	(12)
Overcoming the Fear of Fun	257	(8)
Thou Shalt Enjoy Sex	265	(18)
Ancient Wisdom and Modern Insights	283	(2)
Notes	285	(6)
Resources	291	(6)
More Information on the PREP Approach	297	(2)
About the Authors	299	(2)
Index	301