Bridges Not Walls : A Book about Interpersonal Communication

by Stewart, John Robert

• ISBN13: 9780072862867
• ISBN10: 0072862866
• Edition: 9th
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2005-07-26
• Publisher: McGraw-Hill Humanities/Social Sciences/Languages

Summary

Through fifty scholarly and popular readings, this anthology examines a broad range of topics, drawing from such various disciplines as communication, philosophy, social science, and psychology. The thought-provoking articles discuss the nature of interpersonal contact, connections between verbal and nonverbal cues, person perception and social intelligence, listening, identity management, interpersonal ethics, types of love, transformational conflict management, and diversity. The new ninth edition features 23 new readings, including new content related to the dark side of communication (power, deception, betrayal, and harassment).

Table of Contents

PREFACE	xi
Part I ENTERING THE INTERPERSONAL ARENA
Chapter 1 Introduction to the Editor and to This Book	3	(11)
Chapter 2 Defining Communication and Interpersonal Communication	14	(48)
John Stewart: Communicating and Interpersonal Communicating	16	(27)
David Bohm: On Communication	43	(4)
Stuart J. Sigman: Toward Study of the Consequentiality (Not Consequences) of Communication	47	(2)
Susan Scott: Fierce Conversations	49	(8)
Neil Postman: The Communication Panacea	57	(5)
Chapter 3 Defining Ourselves as Communicators	62	(52)
John Stewart, Karen E. Zediker, and Saskia Witteborn: Constructing Identities	64	(12)
Daniel Goleman: The Rudiments of Social Intelligence	76	(9)
Gerald Corey and Marianne Schneider-Corey: Meaning and Values	85	(10)
Harold Barrett: Maintaining the Self in Communication	95	(15)
Richard Rodriguez: Hispanic	110	(4)
Chapter 4 Making Contact Verbally and Non verbally	114	(61)
John Stewart and Carole Logan: Verbal and Nonverbal Dimensions of Talk	115	(26)
Virginia Satir: Paying Attention to Words	141	(7)
Mark L. Knapp and Judith A. Hall: Nonverbal Communication: Basic Perspectives	148	(16)
Daniel J. Canary, Michael J. Cody, and Valerie L. Manusov: Functions of Nonverbal Behavior	164	(11)
Part II MAKING MEANING TOGETHER
Chapter 5 Understanding and Listening: Communication as Inhaling	175	(63)
Sarah Trenholm and Arthur Jensen: Interpretive Competence: How We Perceive Individuals, Relationships, and Social Events	177	(14)
Julia T. Wood: It's Only Skin Deep: Stereotyping and Totalizing Others	191	(7)
Kay Lindahl: What Is Listening?	198	(7)
Karen Kissel Wegela: Being a Good Listener	205	(8)
John M. Gottman: Above All, Just Listen	213	(6)
John Stewart, Karen E. Zediker, and Saskia Witteborn: Empathic and Dialogic Listening	219	(19)
Chapter 6 Engaging Others: Communication as Exhaling	238	(49)
David W. Johnson: Being Open with and to Other People	240	(9)
Matthew McKay, Martha Davis, and Patrick Fanning: Expressing	249	(12)
John M. Gottman: Putting Feelings into Words	261	(7)
Lawrence B. Rosenfeld and Jack M. Richman: What to Tell: Deciding When, How, and What to Self-Disclose	268	(8)
Beverly Engel: Confronting Emotional Abuse	276	(11)
Part III CHANGING RELATIONSHIPS
Chapter 7 Communicating with Family and Friends	287	(65)
Stephanie Coontz: Working with What We've Got: The Strengths and Vulnerabilities of Today's Families	289	(20)
Kathleen M. Galvin, Carma L. Bylund, and Bernard J. Brommel: Intimacy and Closeness Within Families	309	(18)
Steve Duck: Our Friends, Ourselves	327	(14)
John Hardwig: In Search of an Ethics of Personal Relationships	341	(11)
Chapter 8 Communicating with Intimate Partners	352	(51)
Gerald Corey and Marianne Schneider-Corey: Intimate Relationships	354	(12)
Daniel J. Canary and Tara M. Emmers-Sommer, with Sandra Faulkner: Moving Beyond Sex and Gender Stereotypes	366	(11)
Julia T. Wood: Gendered Standpoints on Personal Relationships	377	(8)
Joyce A. Arditti and Melissa Kauffman: Staying Close When Apart: Intimacy and Meaning in Long-Distance Dating Relationships	385	(7)
Alvin Cooper and Leda Sportolari: Romance in Cyberspace: Understanding Online Attraction	392	(11)
Part IV BRIDGES NOT WALLS
Chapter 9 Recognizing Communication Walls	403	(70)
John Stewart, Karen E. Zediker, and Saskia Witteborn: Deception, Betrayal, and Aggression	405	(12)
Anita L. Vangelisti: Messages That Hurt	417	(12)
Kenneth N. Cissna and Evelyn Sieburg: Patterns of Interactional Confirmation and Disconfirmation	429	(11)
Robert Greene: The 48 Laws of Power	440	(12)
William W. Wilmot and Joyce L. Hocker: Power: The Structure of Conflict	452	(14)
Patricia Evans: Children and Verbal Abuse	466	(7)
Chapter 10 Managing Conflict by Turning Walls into Bridges	473	(68)
Joseph P. Folger, Marshall Scott Poole, and Randall K. Stutman: Conflict and Interaction	475	(14)
William W. Wilmot: Communication Spirals, Paradoxes, and Conundrums	489	(16)
Jeffrey Kottler: Taking Responsibility without Blaming	505	(9)
Steve Duck: Handling the Break-Up of Relationships	514	(9)
Hugh and Gayle Prather: How to Resolve Issues Unmemorably	523	(10)
John Paul Lederach: Conflict Transformation	533	(8)
Chapter 11 Bridging Cultural Differences	541	(49)
David W. Johnson: Building Relationships with Diverse Others	543	(13)
Letty Cottin Pogrebin: The Same and Different: Crossing Boundaries of Color, Culture, Sexual Preference, Disability, and Age	556	(17)
Pui Yee Beryl Tsang: There's a White Man in My Bed: Scenes from an Interracial Marriage	573	(8)
Marsha Houston: When Black Women Talk with White Women: Why Dialogues Are Difficult	581	(9)
Chapter 12 Promoting Dialogue	590	(45)
Deborah Tannen: The Roots of Debate in Education and the Hope of Dialogue	592	(8)
Sheila McNamee and Kenneth J. Gergen; Eero Riikonen: Relational Responsibility and Dialogue	600	(6)
William Isaacs: A Conversation with a Center, Not Sides	606	(7)
Karen Zediker and John Stewart: Dialogue's Basic Tension	613	(10)
Rick Ross: Skillful Discussion: Protocols for Reaching a Decision-Mindfully	623	(12)
Part V APPROACHES TO INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION
Chapter 13 A Teacher's Approach	635	(21)
C. Roland Christensen: Every Student Teaches and Every Teacher Learns: The Reciprocal Gift of Discussion Teaching	637	(19)
Chapter 14 A Counselor's Approach	656	(10)
Carl R. Rogers: Experiences in Communication	658	(8)
Chapter 15 A Spiritual Approach	666	(13)
Parker J. Palmer: Leading from Within: Out of the Shadow, into the Light	668	(11)
Chapter 16 A Philosopher's Approach	679
Martin Buber: Elements of the Interhuman	684
PHOTO CREDITS	C-1
INDEX	I-1