Drawing the Line Ten Steps to Constructive Discipline--And Achieving a Great Relationship with Your Kids

by Weiss, Michael J.; Wagner, Sheldon H.; Goldberg, Susan

• ISBN13: 9780446695008
• ISBN10: 0446695009
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2006-02-15
• Publisher: Grand Central Publishing
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Summary

When it comes to helping children learn to control their impulses, todays parents are pulling their own hair out: time-outs dont work and gimmicky techniques dont instill the values parents want their children to have. DRAWING THE LINE introduces a unique 10-step program that shows parents how to create and engineer conflict, in order to help break inappropriate habits and learn more productive ways of behaving. Dr. Weiss and Dr. Wagners approach shows parents how to establish goals for their family and children identify and isolate problem behaviors develop proactive plans before conflicts arise understand how to engineer conflict in order to create change and find suitable, effective reward and penalty systems that really work. An alternative to overly-permissive and too-strict parenting styles, this book includes quizzes, checklists, worksheets, and information sidebars, as well as stories and anecdotes that illuminate, encourage, and inspire!

Table of Contents

Introduction	ix
1 What Do You Want for Your Kids?	1	(25)
Want your kids to be successful adults? Then teach them the skills of cooperation—today!
2 Drawing the Line	26	(22)
When the old ways just don't work—creating a "new world order" for appropriate behavior
3 Relating in Peace, or R.I.P.	48	(37)
Rewards, ignoring, and penalties: your children's global positioning system
4 Becoming Credible: Timing, Less Talking, and Proximity	85	(25)
How, when, and where to talk to your kids—and when not to talk at all
5 Practice Makes Parent	110	(45)
Putting your plan into action
6 "Will I Have to Do This Forever?"	155	(10)
Lose the scaffolding: fading out the support
7 Beyond the Kids: From Polarized Partners to Parents on the Same Page	165	(15)
Want your kids to listen to you? Then you need to listen to each other—and develop a joint plan
8 Parent Traps	180	(17)
The seven most common parenting errors—and how to avoid them
9 Parent Triumphs	197	(18)
Ten not-so-secret tips for creating cooperative—and happy!—kids
Parting Thoughts from Dr. Michael Weiss	215	(4)
Acknowledgments	219	(10)
Blank Drawing the Line Worksheets	229	(6)
Index	235	(8)
About the Authors	243	(2)
About Dr. Michael Weiss and Dr. Sheldon Wagner and Real Families TV	245