Essential Manners for Men

by Post, Peter

• ISBN13: 9780062080417
• ISBN10: 0062080415
• Edition: 2nd
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2012-05-08
• Publisher: William Morrow & Co

Summary

"In the world of Jackass, Maxim, and The Man Show, men should welcome this book. It's refreshing to have another voice." -Andy Spade, CEO and Creative Director, Kate Spade LLC "A helpful manners survival guide for figuring out those sticky everyday situations." -Joshua Piven, coauthor of The WORST-CASE SCENARIO Survival Handbook The name "Emily Post" is synonymous with etiquette, good manners, and decorum-and, with this newly revised and updated 2nd Edition of the New York Times bestseller Essential Manners for Men, Peter Post, Emily Post's great-grandson and director of The Emily Post Institute, once again does the great lady proud. In this invaluable handbook, Post addresses the topics men really need to master to succeed in business and in life-how to act and to conduct themselves in a plethora of common and not so common circumstances in the office, at a wedding, on social media, when dating, etc. Essential Manners for Men, 2nd Edition is a book that belongs on the shelves of every man and the woman who loves him.

Table of Contents

Preface: Men Want Answers	p. xv
Introduction: They Just Snickered	p. xvii
Daily Life
The "E" Word	p. 3
Etiquette Is …	p. 3
Being Inconsiderate and Being Disrespectful Go Hand in Hand	p. 5
The Top Three Issues in Daily Life	p. 8
Bad Habits Lead the List	p. 8
Making a Mess and Not Helping to Clean Up Matters-a Lot	p. 9
Acting in a Superior Manner Is Really Frustrating	p. 10
Other Annoying Behaviors	p. 10
The Top Three Most Impressive Things Men Do in Daily Life	p. 11
Other Hot Spots	p. 13
Seeing the Man in the Mirror	p. 13
Sharing the Load	p. 14
"What TV Show Are We Going to Watch?"	p. 16
The Telephone	p. 17
Passing Gas	p. 18
Scratching What Itches	p. 19
Attire	p. 19
Hygiene	p. 20
Pet Problems	p. 21
When You're Not the Problem	p. 21
Two Rooms That Can make or Break Your home Life	p. 23
Clean Kitchen, Warm Heart	p. 24
The Battle of the Bathroom	p. 26
How Others View Us	p. 32
Smoking	p. 34
Chewing Gum	p. 35
Spitting	p. 35
Who Cut the Cheese?	p. 35
Swearing	p. 36
Women Swear and Men Gossip	p. 37
A Man and His Car	p. 38
Driver's Ed-iquette	p. 40
"Don't Worry-I Know How to Get There"	p. 41
In-Person Communication	p. 43
La La Land	p. 44
Quality of Voice	p. 45
Listening Skills	p. 46
Topics	p. 46
Jokes	p. 46
The Importance of Nonverbal Cues	p. 47
Telephone Communication	p. 48
Volume Control	p. 49
A Revealing Question	p. 49
The Cell/Smartphone	p. 51
You Are What You Write-Warts and All	p. 53
The Handwritten Note	p. 53
The Stationery Drawer	p. 55
E-mail Hell	p. 56
Six Tips for E-mail Success	p. 56
Texting: Danger, Danger, Danger	p. 58
Meeting and Greeting	p. 59
Greeting People	p. 59
The All-Important Handshake	p. 61
Making Introductions	p. 62
Mr. and Mrs. or John and Mary?	p. 66
Tipping 101	p. 67
Appropriate Tips for Business and Professional Services	p. 68
Tipping at Restaurants	p. 70
Holiday Tipping	p. 72
Tipping When Traveling	p. 74
Working Out, or, Lost in Your Own Thoughts	p. 76
Leaving a Pool of Sweat	p. 76
The Unwanted Stare	p. 77
Grunting	p. 78
The "I'm More Important Than You Are" Syndrome	p. 79
Hitting on Women in Midworkout	p. 79
Your Personal Trainer Is a Person	p. 80
Class Courtesy	p. 81
the sporting life: on the field and in the stands	p. 83
It's Okay to Want to Win	p. 84
Do the Little Things That Matter	p. 85
CheatinÆ Charlie and Sandbagger Stan-The Scourge of the Course	p. 86
Friendship vs. Changing the Foursome	p. 87
A Friendly Wager	p. 88
The Golden Rule of Spectating: Keep It Positive	p. 88
Referees Are People Too	p. 89
Parents and Kids	p. 90
So Now You're a Dad!	p. 92
Sharing the Responsibility	p. 93
Coaching Your Own Kids	p. 95
Spectating at Your Kids' Sports Events	p. 96
The Soccer Dad	p. 96
Social Life
The Best and the Worst in social Life	p. 99
The Most Impressive Thing Men Do: Use Good Manners	p. 100
The Ideal Escort: Appreciative and Attentive	p. 101
Dressing Smart, Smelling Fresh, Looking Good	p. 102
Acting in a Superior Way-Men at Their Worst	p. 103
Foul Language Foul	p. 103
Dating-Just You and Her	p. 104
Just You and Her	p. 104
Remembering and Celebrating Special Occasions	p. 105
The Importance of Flowers	p. 105
Opening Doors	p. 106
The Revolving Door Dilemma	p. 107
Helping Her with Her Coat	p. 107
Walking Together	p. 108
Standing	p. 108
Who Pays?	p. 109
To Flirt or Not to Flirt?	p. 109
On the Town	p. 111
Sharing Expenses	p. 112
Bar Etiquette	p. 112
The Etiquette of Splitting the Bill	p. 114
Small Grossnesses	p. 115
The Good Guest	p. 117
The Invitation	p. 117
At the Party	p. 120
The Hostess Gift	p. 120
Thank You	p. 122
entertaining at home 1	p. 23
Cleaning Up-The Right Way	p. 124
The K.I.S.S. School of Home Entertaining	p. 125
The K.I.S.S. Meal Plan	p. 125
Last-Minute Details	p. 127
The Good Host	p. 128
Potluck or Group Parties	p. 130
Dinnertime	p. 131
The Three Most-Asked Questions About Table Manners	p. 132
A Quick Journey Through a Formal Dinner	p. 134
During the Meal	p. 136
At Dinner's End	p. 139
The Houseguest from Hell	p. 140
The Etiquette of Visiting: Be Clean and Helpful-and Share the Remote!	p. 140
The Five Keys to a Successful Visit	p. 143
Meeting the Parents	p. 147
Social Media	p. 148
Social Networking	p. 148
The World of Online Dating	p. 150
Online Gaming	p. 154
The Big Day: The Wedding	p. 155
The Guest: When You Are Invited	p. 156
The Groom	p. 161
Other Manly Roles at a Wedding	p. 165
On the Job
Top Three Issues for Work Life	p. 171
The Three Most Annoying Issues in Work Life	p. 171
Things Men Do Well in Work Life	p. 175
Business Runs on Relationships	p. 176
How Others See You	p. 177
Coping with Layoffs	p. 177
Five Cardinal Rules for your Job Interview	p. 179
Don't Be Late	p. 179
Be Prepared	p. 180
Dress One Notch Up	p. 181
Smile, Speak Clearly, and Look Your Interviewer in the Eye	p. 182
Thank Them Twice	p. 182
Five Interview Questions You Should Be Prepared to Answer	p. 184
Five Questions to Ask During an Interview	p. 184
Beware Your Online Presence	p. 185
Building Better Relationships	p. 186
Negative Behaviors Hurt Relationships	p. 187
Choosing to Get Along	p. 192
Office Communications	p. 193
Face-to-Face	p. 194
Business Phone Etiquette	p. 197
Voice Mail	p. 200
The Cell/Smartphone	p. 201
E-mail	p. 202
Letters and Memos	p. 203
Everyday Business Manners	p. 204
Gender-Neutral Business	p. 204
Around the Office	p. 205
Hygiene	p. 209
Clothing	p. 210
Business Social Events	p. 213
The Business Social Mixer	p. 214
The Business Meal	p. 218
Afterword	p. 221
Acknowledgments	p. 223
Index	p. 224
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