Everything You Know about Love and Sex Is Wrong : Twenty-Five Relationship Myths Redefined to Achieve Happiness and Fulffillment in Your Intimate Life

by Schwartz, Pepper

• ISBN13: 9780399146558
• ISBN10: 0399146555
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2000-10-09
• Publisher: Putnam Adult

Summary

Pepper Schwartz offers a refreshing, unique take on the old and established assumptions that people hold when it comes to sex and love. Twenty-five relationship myths are examined for the reasons they have been widely held and believed for so long, reevaluated with a frank and keen eye for why they should be dismissed, and replaced with modern, reality-based ideas. The author draws on her years of professional and personal experience, bolstered by illuminating case studies. Dr. Schwartz demystifies such notions as "Women are not into sex toys", "All committed couples should pool their money", and "You can't be in love with two people at once" in order to show that it is possible to let go of the myths that undermine our relationships.

Author Biography

Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., is a professor of sociology at the University of Washington and author or coauthor of a number of books, including Finding Your Perfect Match and The Great Sex Weekend. The past president of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality and the Pacific Sociological Society, she is the winner of the American Sociological Association’s prize for Public Understanding of Sociology.

Dr. Schwartz has appeared on numerous television and radio shows including multiple appearances on Today, Oprah, and Dr. Phil. A former columnist for Glamour and American Baby, she is currently the relationship expert for PerfectMatch.com, for which she created the Duet® Total Compatibility System. She also writes a column for Seattle Metropolitan Monthly.

 

Table of Contents

Introduction	1	(5)
Myth: Your lover should be your best friend	5	(10)
Myth: You can't be in love with two people at the same time	15	(12)
Myth: You will know when you have met ``the one''	27	(12)
Myth: Pick only someone you are madly in love with	39	(10)
Myth: When you want to get serious, date only people with marriage potential	49	(10)
Myth: You should be similar to your partner	59	(14)
Myth: Pick someone who has sown her or his wild oats and is now ready to settle down with you	73	(6)
Myth: It is flattering to have a jealous lover	79	(10)
Myth: You should never have sex on the first date	89	(12)
Myth: Even if sex isn't fantastic in the beginning, it can be fixed	101	(12)
Myth: Masturbation by a partner in a relationship is a bad sign	113	(10)
Myth: Women are not into sex toys, pornography, fantasy, or quickies	123	(10)
Myth: Men are simply not monogamous by nature; women are	133	(10)
Myth: You can't have really great sex without intercourse	143	(12)
Myth: If you desire someone else, something is wrong with your relationship	155	(8)
Myth: Never go to bed mad	163	(10)
Myth: You can never truly get over even one act of infidelity	173	(10)
Myth: You should be prepared to do anything for the person you love	183	(12)
Myth: Little annoying habits are unimportant in a long-term relationship	195	(14)
Myth: Everyone should cohabit before marriage; it can only help	209	(12)
Myth: All committed couples (and especially spouses) should pool their money	221	(10)
Myth: You should always be one hundred percent honest with your partner	231	(14)
Myth: Divorce means failure; marriage should last a lifetime	245	(12)
Myth: Children bring a couple closer	257	(10)
Myth: Committed and married people should live in the same home	267	(8)
Some concluding remarks	275