Family Ties That Bind

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  • Edition: 4th
  • Format: Paperback
  • Copyright: 2011-05-16
  • Publisher: Self Counsel Pr

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This book uses Family of Origin therapy techniques as a basis for you to improve those relationships and your own sense of self-esteem.

Author Biography

Ron Richardson, BA, MDiv, DMin was a marriage counselor and family therapist for 20 years, until his retirement in 1996. He was formerly Executive Director and Director of Training at the North Shore Counselling Centre in North Vancouver, British Columbia. He was also on the faculty of the Pacific Coast Family Therapy Training Association. For many years he was active as a Clinical Member and Approved Supervisor of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy and as a Diplomate of the American Association of Pastoral Counselors.

Table of Contents

Introductionp. 1
Families Are Strange Creaturesp. 8
The Hip Bone's Connected to the Thigh Bone - How Families Workp. 8
Eat Your Spinach - Rules in the Familyp. 12
You Never Talk to Me - Closeness and Distance Among Family Membersp. 17
Come Closer - Not Too Closep. 17
Appearances Are Deceivingp. 20
All the World Wants a Mommyp. 22
You're Not Better, Just Different - Dealing with Differencesp. 24
I Say Tomato. You Say Tomahto - Anxiety about Differencesp. 24
Do It My Way or Else - The Demand for Samenessp. 26
˘I only want what you want, dear÷ - The compliant onesp. 26
˘I did it my way÷ - The rebelsp. 29
˘I'm the king of the mountain÷ - The attackersp. 30
˘Bye-bye÷ - The cutoffp. 33
How To Be True to Yourself and Still Have Friendsp. 35
Free to Be Me - Being Yourself and Knowing Who That Isp. 35
Being goal-directedp. 37
Distinguishing between thinking and feelingp. 38
Stuck in the Mess - Fusionp. 41
You Made Me Do It - Being Responsible for Yourselfp. 45
Let Mother Take Care of It - Under-Functioning and Over-Functioningp. 47
Negative consequencesp. 47
Positive consequencesp. 49
Conclusionp. 49
Triangles in Relationshipsp. 52
Three's a Crowd - What Is a Triangle Anyway?p. 53
How Triangles Operatep. 57
You and Me Against Her - The Meaning of Coalitions in Trianglesp. 61
The World Is a Stage - Roles in the Trianglep. 67
Who's On First? - Birth Order And Gender Position In The Family of Originp. 71
The Oldest Childp. 75
Oldest sister of sistersp. 77
Oldest sister of brothersp. 77
Oldest brother of brothersp. 78
Oldest brother of sistersp. 79
The Youngest Childp. 80
Youngest sister of sistersp. 81
Youngest sister of brothersp. 82
Youngest brother of brothersp. 83
Youngest brother of sistersp. 83
The Middle Childp. 84
The Only Childp. 87
Male only childp. 88
Female only childp. 89
Twinsp. 90
Doing The Workp. 92
The Begats: Who Is in Your Family?p. 93
Hello, Mom. Remember Me?: Contacting Family Membersp. 97
Developing a Historyp. 100
Dr. Livingston, I Presume?: Researchingp. 102
You Can Go Home Again: Making Family Visitsp. 107
This Is Me, Like It or Not: Differentiatingp. 113
Redoing Itp. 118
The Author's Own Family of Origin Workp. 120
My Own Family Circumstancesp. 121
My family diagramp. 123
Starting the Workp. 125
The Work Progressesp. 127
Dealing with Trianglesp. 130
Differentiation of Selfp. 132
Conclusionp. 134
Appendix I: Family Researchp. 135
Appendix II: Finding Professional Help for Doing Family of Origin Workp. 139
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