Help--My Kid Is Driving Me Crazy : The 17 Ways Kids Manipulate Their Parents, and What You Can Do about It

by Swanson, David

• ISBN13: 9780399535260
• ISBN10: 0399535268
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2009-09-01
• Publisher: Perigee Trade

Summary

If your child continually manipulates you and others in order to get what he wants, this insightful and practical guide is the book you've been waiting for. Written by a veteran family psychologist, it identifies the specific ways kids manipulate others and explains how to disarm each one-and prevent it from happening again.

Author Biography

David Swanson, Psy.D., a licensed clinical psychologist practicing in Encino, California, treats children, teens, and families suffering from anxiety disorders, behavioral difficulties, and social problems to improve parent-child relationships.

Table of Contents

The 17 Ways Kids Manipulate Their Parents	p. xi
Introduction	p. 1
How Did We Get Here? The Truth About Kids, Parents, and the Unspoken Dynamics Between Them	p. 9
The Three Major Misconceptions Most Parents Believe	p. 11
The Three Innate Desires That Lead Most Parents to Inconsistency	p. 21
Your Child's Tools of Power The 17 Ways Kids Manipulate to Get What They Want	p. 25
Emotional Blackmail	p. 27
Punishment	p. 32
Shutting Down	p. 40
Irrational Logic	p. 46
Negotiation	p. 52
Confrontation and Protest	p. 57
Steamrolling	p. 67
Covert Operations	p. 74
Divide and Conquer	p. 82
Tactical Engagement	p. 88
Creating Leverage	p. 97
Playing the Victim	p. 101
Forging the Friendship	p. 105
Character Comparison	p. 112
Casting Doubt	p. 117
Glorification	p. 123
Surprise Attack	p. 128
Developing an Action Plan to Decrease Problematic Behavior in the Future	p. 133
The Five Reasons Children Manipulate	p. 135
Assessing Your Child's Temperament: Using the Star Method	p. 142
Setting Structure Based on Your Child's Temperament Meeting Your Child's Interpersonal Needs	p. 149
The Self-Doubting Child	p. 151
The Impulsive Child: A Case of the Shuns	p. 158
The Oppositional Child	p. 167
The Low-Tolerant Child: A Need for Control	p. 179
The Anxious/Insecure Child	p. 195
Final Note	p. 209
Appendix: Five Steps for Imposing a Restriction	p. 211
Special Acknowledgment	p. 213
Index	p. 215
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