How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk : The Foolproof Way to Follow Your Heart Without Losing Your Mind

by Van Epp, John

• ISBN13: 9780071472654
• ISBN10: 0071472657
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2006-08-28
• Publisher: McGraw-Hill

Summary

Van Epp's workshops are taught by certified instructors in 45 states and seven countries, and his program has been adopted for widespread use in the U.S. armed forces Van Epp's work has been cited in Time, the Wall Street Journal, O magazine, Psychology Today, and on salon.com Taps a market of 50 million singles in the United States alone, as well as millions of divorcees not wanting to make the same mistake twice

Author Biography

John Van Epp, Ph.D., is a therapist in private practice who conducts seminars and workshops nationwide on topics related to marriage, family, single living, relationships, and divorce. He has been happily married for 26 years.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	ix
PART I Your Heart Matters, but So Does Your Head	1	(50)
1 Follow Your Heart Without Losing Your Mind	3	(14)
2 The RAM Plan	17	(14)
3 Healthy People Make Healthy Choices	31	(20)
PART II Use Your Head . . .	51	(162)
4 Hello, I Love You, Won't You Tell Me Your Name?	53	(22)
RAM Dynamic 1: Do I Really Know You?
5 Find Your Soul Mate	75	(34)
Step One: Getting to Know Your Compatibility Potential
6 Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say	109	(20)
Step Two: Getting to Know the Skills for Building and Maintaining Relationships
7 "And My Third Wife Was a..."	129	(32)
Step Three: Getting to Know the Patterns from Other Relationships
8 You Can't Marry Jethro Without Gettin' the Clampetts	161	(24)
Step Four: Getting to Know the Patterns of a Family Background
9 Find Your Mate's Soul	185	(28)
Step Five: Getting to Know the Patterns of the Conscience
PART III...While Following Your Heart	213	(96)
10 Sketching the Date-Mate Profile	215	(26)
RAM Dynamic 2: Should I Trust You?
11 If I Scratch Your Back, Will You Scratch Mine?	241	(22)
RAM Dynamic 3: Will You Meet My Needs?
12 My Word Is My Bond—Maybe	263	(24)
RAM Dynamic 4: Can You Keep a Commitment?
13 How to Have Great Sex	287	(22)
RAM Dynamic 5: Should We Have Sex?
Conclusion What the World Needs Now Is Pacemakers and Trendsetter	309	(4)
Notes	313	(8)
Index	321