It's Not Your Fault

by Laura K. Connell

• ISBN13: 9780757324734
• ISBN10: 0757324738
• eBook ISBN(s): 9780757324741
• Format: Bound Book
• Copyright: 2023-09-12
• Publisher: Simon & Schuster
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Summary

A guide to help readers uncover the subconscious reasons they hold themselves back along with an exploration of the ways negative childhood experiences have impacted their lives and fed into the problem.

We are sometimes our own worst enemies, sabotaging our success and with it our chance for lasting happiness and opportunities for personal and professional fulfillment. It’s Not Your Fault helps readers uncover the subconscious reasons they hold themselves back. These blind spots were often created in childhood as coping mechanisms in response to trauma. Rather than teaching tactics that ignore or give surface attention to adverse childhood events, the book lovingly guides readers to explore the ways these events have impacted their lives and how this knowledge will help them access true transformation. Readers will be relieved to discover that it's not a lack of willpower that has held them back, but a lack of self-knowledge instead.

Those who have been let down by traditional therapeutic techniques know that behavior modification doesn’t work for everyone. Simply doing things differently while staying the same on the inside might help for the short term, but before long old patterns emerge. Once they decide to get serious about change, however, and stop tweaking habits in the hope it will result in lasting transformation, they can create a life by design instead of default. It takes work, an internal excavation, and Laura comes alongside the reader as a trusted guide who has been where they are now. She provides the tools and anecdotal evidence to show them how to overcome the pain of self-sabotage and create the life they desire.

Author Biography

Laura K. Connell is a trauma-informed author and coach who helps women who struggle to understand why they hold themselves back in life and relationships. She shows them how to uncover blind spots that lead to broken relationships, and the subconscious reasons they sabotage their own success. Her personal development website, laurakconnell.com, where she writes about healing self-sabotage and attachment issues, has amassed 10,000 email subscribers (and growing). Her guest articles and essays have further reached audiences in the tens of thousands through large personal development websites Pick the Brain, Dumb Little Man, Thought Catalog, The Self Improvement Blog, Possibility Change, and Highly Sensitive Refuge. She has also published a personal essay about her healing journey in Chicken Soup for the Soul, and other nonfiction works in national newspapers The Globe and Mail, Toronto Star, and Calgary Herald. She has bylines in several more publications, both online and in print, which span the last two decades.