Love in the Time of HIV The Gay Man's Guide to Sex, Dating, and Relationships

by Mancilla, Michael; Troshinsky, Lisa

• ISBN13: 9781572308435
• ISBN10: 1572308435
• Edition: 1st
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2003-07-16
• Publisher: The Guilford Press
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Summary

The facts of life have never been more complicated for gay men. While the threat of AIDS has been diminished by new treatments and longer life expectancy, HIV remains a serious and intractable foe. In this affirming guide, therapist Michael Mancilla, himself HIV-positive, helps fellow gay men, both single and partnered, pursue the happy and fulfilling love life they deserve. Readers will find advice on everything from meeting Mr. Right and talking about HIV status to building the long-term relationships that many never expected to have. Candid first-hand accounts reveal how others in the community are negotiating safer sex, overcoming legal and financial hurdles to plan for the future, learning to accept care as well as give it, and crafting the kinds of intimate relationships they want, whether that means casual sex, dating, or permanent commitment. Smart, honest, and insightful, this book is written from the heart. Key Features: * The real deal from someone who kno

Author Biography

Michael Mancilla, MSW, LICSW, is an openly HIV-positive psychotherapist who specializes in working with individuals, couples, and families affected by HIV/AIDS. He is a frequent presenter at national and international conferences. Mancilla's story of the impact of HIV on his relationship was the subject of a [i]Washington Post Magazine[/i] article and a CNN documentary, and was cited in a front-page story in [i]The New York Times[/i].

Lisa Troshinsky is a writer and editor in Washington, DC. She has reported on HIV/AIDS and gay and lesbian issues for [i]The Washington Blade[/i], [i]The Houston Chronicle[/i], and United Press International.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	ix
Note from the Authors	xi
Preface	xiii
Introduction	1	(8)
Tell and Kiss: The Skill of Disclosure	9	(24)
Transitions: Reflection, Resilience, and Opportunity	33	(26)
Love in Contrast: Negative and Positive	59	(23)
An Indian Summer Romance: Positives with Positives	82	(36)
Jumper Cables and Relationships: Negatives with Negatives	118	(17)
Mark E. Wojcik
In Sickness and in Health: Your Body and Your Relationship	135	(29)
Lazarus and Survivors: Those Who Continue	164	(37)
Epilogue	201	(2)
Appendix A Legal Protections for Couples with HIV	203	(12)
Liz Seaton
Appendix B Resources	215	(4)
Notes	219	(6)
Index	225	(10)
About the Authors	235