Real Love : The Truth about Finding Unconditional Love and Fulfilling Relationships

by Baer, Greg

• ISBN13: 9781592400478
• ISBN10: 1592400477
• Edition: Reprint
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2004-01-19
• Publisher: Gotham

Summary

With Real Love, nothing else matters; without it, nothing else is enough.Why do most people spend their whole lives searching for loving and happy relationships but rarely find them? What is the secret something” that all relationships need in order to thrive? Dr. Greg Baer found the answers to these questions while working with hundreds of individuals and couples. In Real Love, he shares his enlightening and practical blueprint for creating successful relationships and reveals the secret to finding and keeping what he calls Real Love.” You’ll discover:- The difference between Imitation Love, or conditional love, which most people grow up experiencing, and Real Love, the secret to genuine happiness - How to eliminate conflicts in relationships with spouses, children, parents, siblings, friends, and colleagues - How to put an end to destructive Getting” and Protecting” behaviors - Precisely how dishonesty, criticism, and blame-fixing can irrevocably damage relationships - How Real Love can break the cycles of expectation and disappointment and how it can ease and eradicate feelings of anger, resentment, and fear - The four steps to finding Real Love With Real Loveas your guide, you can begin to heal the wounds of your past and create rewarding and fulfilling relationships in every area of your life.

Author Biography

Greg Baer, M.D., a successful surgeon, teacher, and businessman, is the author of a highly successful self-published book, The Truth About Relationships, which became the basis for Real Love. Dr. Baer has appeared on over 1,000 radio and television shows, speaks at workshops and seminars, and is the founder of Loving Groups around the country.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	p. ix
Introduction	p. xi
The Missing Ingredient: What Relationships Really Need	p. 1
The Missing Ingredient
Real Love and Genuine Happiness
The Destructive Legacy of Conditional Love
Drowning for Lack of Love
Getting and Protecting: The Many Faces of Imitation Love	p. 18
The Many Faces of Imitation Love
The Cost of Imitation Love
Getting and Protecting Behaviors
Getting and Protecting (Why Do We Do That?)
I Love You Because...
Making Choices
Changing Our Choices
Being Seen and Getting Loved: The Tale of the Wart King and the Wise Man	p. 41
The Tale of the Wart King and the Wise Man
How to Recognize and Find Real Love: Truth to Senn to Accepted to Loved
The Truth About Relationships and Individual Choices
The Difference Between Asking and Expecting
Taking the Leap of Faith: Everyday Wise Men and How to Find Them	p. 63
Remember the Wart King
Being Patient: Don't Expect Brass Bands
Having a Desire to Change
Exercising Faith
Telling the Truth About Yourself
Giving Up the Getting and Protecting Behaviors
The Effect of Real Love: Like Money in the Bank	p. 117
Real Love Is Like Money in the Bank
The Effect of Real Love on the Past and the Present
Real Love: The Answer to All Our Relationship "Problems"
The Need for Consistent Real Love
Magnifying the Effect of Real Love with Gratitude
Sharing Your Fortune: The Power of Loving Others	p. 136
Loved: We Can't Give What We Don't Have
Seeing: The Elimination of Our Own Blindness
Accepting: The Natural, Peaceful Result of Seeing
Loving: Caring About the Happiness of Other People
Playing a Beautiful Duet: The Joys of Mutually Loving Relationships	p. 170
Telling the Truth About Ourselves
Telling the Truth About Our Partner
Telling the Truth All the Time
Making Requests
Working Things Out
Faith in Mutual Love
Becoming One
Real Love in All Our Relationships: Spouses, Children, Friends, and Co-workers	p. 188
The Truth About Marriage
Exclusive Relationships
Sex in Relationships
The Truth About Parenting
Family, Friends, Co-workers, and Everyone Else
Our Relationship with God
Dealing With Obstacles on the Path to Real Love: Disappointment, Anger, and Getting and Protecting Behaviors	p. 227
Eliminating Conflict
Dealing with Getting and Protecting Behaviors
Ending a Relationship (Including Divorce)
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