Understanding and Loving a Person with Sexual Addiction Biblical and Practical Wisdom to Build Empathy, Preserve Boundaries, and Show Compassion

by Arterburn, Stephen; Martinkus, Jason B.; Martinkus, Shelley S

• ISBN13: 9780781414906
• ISBN10: 0781414903
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2018-04-01
• Publisher: David C Cook

Summary

This practical guide helps spouses to understand what drives sexual addiction and how to find healing after betrayal.

When Jason Martinkus confessed his infidelity to his wife, Shelley, she wasn’t sure she could ever trust him again. Together they began a difficult but redemptive journey of understanding sexual addiction. In this book, Jason and Shelley join Stephen Arterburn to address the following:

• What sexual addiction is and how to know if someone is addicted
• How to understand the roller coaster of post betrayal emotions
• Guidance in developing boundaries
• What to do if a spouse doesn’t want to recover

This is a valuable resource for anyone who loves someone addicted to sex or pornography.

Author Biography

Stephen Arterburn, M.Ed., is the founder and chairman of New Life Ministries and the host of the nationally syndicated Christian counseling talk show New Life Live! heard by over two million people each week on nearly two hundred radio stations nationwide. He is the bestselling author of books such as Every Man’s Battle and Healing Is a Choice. With over eight million books in print, Arterburn has been writing about God’s transformational truth since 1984. His ministry focuses on identifying and compassionately responding to the needs of those seeking healing and restoration through God’s truth.

Jason B. Martinkus, M.A., is a national speaker for Every Man’s Battle and the president of Redemptive Living, a Denver-based counseling and speaking ministry. After sexual addiction almost took his life and marriage, Martinkus dedicated his life to helping men find freedom from sexual integrity issues. He is the author of Worthy of Her Trust and has a masters degree in counseling from Denver Seminary. Shelley S. Martinkus is the author of Rescued and ministers to wives recovering from sexual betrayal. The Martinkuses have three children and live in Denver, Colorado.

 

Table of Contents

Contents
 

    Introduction by Stephen Arterburn     vii

    Preface     xi

1. Shared Experiences     1

2. Is Sexual Addiction Real?     13

3. Underpinnings of Sexual Addiction     29

4. The Internal World     41

5. Impact on the Spouse     53

6. Steps toward Healing     73

7. What If It’s Not Working?     105

8. When It’s Our Kids     117

Closing   129

Suggested Resources     131

Notes     133

About New Life Ministries     138

About Stephen Arterburn     139

About Shelley and Jason Martinkus      141