What is included with this book?
Preface | p. xii |
Acknowledgements | p. xiii |
Introduction | p. 1 |
First things first: The Ten Essential Survival Strategies for Keeping Cool in the Heat of Battle | p. 3 |
Twenty Questions | p. 4 |
Essential Survival Srategy 1: Communicate Extra Calmly and Clearly | p. 7 |
A Great Fact is 'I Don't Know' | p. 7 |
Ask How, Not Why | p. 8 |
Be Open and Honest | p. 8 |
Be Specific, Don't Generalize | p. 9 |
Don't be Negative | p. 10 |
Don't Say 'Don't' and Stop Saying 'Stop' | p. 11 |
Have your Say Calmly and Effectively | p. 11 |
Make it Clear Who and What you are Trying to Benefit | p. 13 |
Only Challenge Gently | p. 13 |
Put Everything in Writing | p. 14 |
Say What you Have to Say, and No More | p. 14 |
So you Think that Nothing will Help? | p. 14 |
Speak Their Language | p. 16 |
Take Yourself Seriously | p. 17 |
Essential Survival Strategy 2: Keep Things Real 19 and in Perspective | p. 19 |
Congratulate yourself that you've Put Up with it 20 Until Now | p. 20 |
Don't Assume that Everyone should Get on Well 20 Together | p. 20 |
It May Nor be your Fault | p. 21 |
It's Good to Feel Bad, in a Controlled Way | p. 23 |
It's Natural to Feel Scared | p. 24 |
Essential Survival Strategy 3: Don't Feel Pressured into Acting too Soon | p. 25 |
Go for a Gap | p. 25 |
Pause. Take Time | p. 25 |
Prepare for Tomorrow and Next Week | p. 27 |
Essential Survival Strategy 4: Stop Feeling there 29 are No Choices | p. 29 |
How to Say 'No' Nicely | p. 29 |
Make Sure there are at Least Three Options | p. 30 |
No-one has to Look Like a Loser | p. 31 |
The Power of Stating the Obvious | p. 31 |
Essential Survival Strategy 5: Don't Let the 'Enemy' Dwell on your Mind | p. 33 |
Avoid Uncomfortable Language | p. 33 |
Brush them Aside, Put them Behind you | p. 34 |
Stop Imagining the Worst, by Generating Choices | p. 35 |
Stop Thinking of Them as an 'Enemy' and They'll Stop Feeling Like One | p. 36 |
Essential Survival Strategy 6: Don't Let the 'Enemy' Pull your Strings | p. 39 |
Bullying | p. 39 |
Are they Getting at you Intentionally? | p. 40 |
Check if Others are being Affected | p. 41 |
Get the Organization to Sort out its own Problems | p. 42 |
Systematic Bullying | p. 42 |
Find out your Organization's Policy | p. 43 |
Stop Feeling Dumped on in the Name of 'Delegation' | p. 43 |
Get them to Delegate, Not Dump | p. 44 |
Essentia] Survival Strategy 7: Don't Automatically Believe Other People | p. 47 |
Beware Good Advice | p. 48 |
Getting and Using Advice | p. 49 |
Question Everything | p. 51 |
Beware Little Red Riding Hood (ie Beware 'Good Advice' Masquerading as 'Truth') | p. 52 |
Beware So-Called Wisdom | p. 54 |
Essential Survival Strategy 8: Don't Let the Past Block your Future | p. 59 |
Address Issues Before they Grow Big and Scary | p. 59 |
It'll be AH Right | p. 61 |
Keep Past Events in the Past | p. 61 |
Essential Survival Strategy 9: Don't Take it Personally-Take it 'Bebaviourally' Instead | p. 63 |
Keep Focused on the Task Professionally Not Emotionally | p. 64 |
Take Things Behaviour ally Instead of Personally: The Neurological Levels | p. 65 |
Essential Survival Strategies for each Neurological Level | p. 68 |
Essential Survival Strategy 10: Look After Yourself | p. 73 |
Avoid 'To Do' Lists | p. 73 |
Call Them Whatever Feels Better to You (Inside) | p. 74 |
Change your Posture to Change how you Feel | p. 74 |
Don't Blame Yourself | p. 75 |
Don't Let Them Get to You | p. 75 |
Find a Way to Live with it | p. 76 |
Focus on Just Doing a Good Job | p. 77 |
Forget about How, for Now | p. 77 |
Get Lots of Support and Supporters | p. 77 |
Get a Coach and/or Mentor | p. 78 |
Have a Deadline | p. 79 |
If it's Not Working, Try Something Different | p. 79 |
It's Only Human to be Human | p. 79 |
Play for Time, Play the Game | p. 80 |
Stay Open-Minded | p. 80 |
Stop Taking yourself Literally | p. 81 |
Take Responsibility vs Blaming Others | p. 82 |
Take the Controls Instead of Looking like a Victim | p. 82 |
Thoughts vs Feelings-the Great Self-Destructive Battleground | p. 83 |
Treat Yourself | p. 85 |
Trust Your Instincts | p. 85 |
Turn Goliath into David | p. 86 |
The Fifteen Toughest Types of 'Enemy' with Survive and Thrive Strategies | p. 87 |
People Who Bully | p. 89 |
People Who Put their own Needs First | p. 93 |
People Who are Hard to Connect With | p. 95 |
People Who are Out of their Depth | p. 97 |
People Who Meddle | p. 101 |
People Who are Fickle | p. 103 |
People Who are Unlike Me | p. 107 |
People Who are Like Me | p. 109 |
People Who are Close to Me | p. 111 |
Me Myself | p. 113 |
Everybody Else | p. 115 |
People Who Regard Me as a Type, Not a Person | p. 117 |
People Who'Change'Me | p. 119 |
People Who Bring out the Rescuer in Me | p. 121 |
People Who Bring out the Rebel in Me, the Worst in Me | p. 123 |
Getting New Information for New Ways of Moving Forward | p. 125 |
p. 125 | |
Top Tips For Information Gathering | p. 127 |
Information Questionnaire | p. 131 |
The Situation | p. 131 |
The Enemy | p. 131 |
Know your Enemy | p. 132 |
Whose 'Enemy' is it Anyhow? | p. 135 |
Who is this 'Enemy' Similar to? | p. 135 |
And Where are you Coming From? | p. 135 |
Getting New Perspectives by Being in other People's Shoes | p. 136 |
Knowing the Current Climate We're all Working in | p. 139 |
What are my Hidden Beliefs that are Holding Me Back? | p. 140 |
It's Fine to be Stupid | p. 141 |
My Best Beliefs Are | p. 141 |
Roles | p. 142 |
And Finally | p. 143 |
Get Planning to Transform your 'Enemy' Situation Calmly | p. 145 |
Introduction | p. 145 |
Getting your Goal Plan Ready | p. 147 |
Daydream Out to your Right | p. 148 |
Your Goal Plan | p. 149 |
Getting Familiar with the Outcome from your Goal Plan | p. 151 |
Be Aware of Others' Outcomes too | p. 152 |
Invite Other People's Ideas | p. 152 |
Get a Supporter or Two | p. 154 |
Make Sure you're Getting What you Want | p. 154 |
Making your Goal Plan Happen and Getting What you Want | p. 155 |
Keep Playing with your Goal | p. 156 |
Sleep on it | p. 157 |
Take a bit More Time to Think, for a Change | p. 157 |
Consider Something Different this Time | p. 157 |
Ask the Opposite | p. 158 |
If in Doubt, Say or Do Nothing | p. 158 |
If the Situation was Oral, Put It in Writing | p. 159 |
If the Situation was Public, Do It in Private | p. 159 |
If the Situation was Private, Do It in Public | p. 160 |
If the Situation is very Emotional, 'Go Formal' | p. 161 |
The Politics of Envy-Make them Jealous | p. 162 |
Give them the Benefit of the Doubt | p. 162 |
Getting your Actions in Order | p. 162 |
Thinking the Unthinkable | p. 165 |
We Don't Need to be Perfect | p. 165 |
Whistleblowing | p. 165 |
Think Carefully about Involving HR | p. 166 |
Getting out may Truly be your Best Option | p. 167 |
And Now Review Again the Part 1 and Part 2 Strategies and Tips | p. 170 |
Index | p. 171 |
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