Before It's Too Late : What Parents Need to Know about Teen Pregnancy and STD Prevention

by Overton, Sheila, M. D.; Colbert, Treacy

• ISBN13: 9781450253666
• ISBN10: 1450253660
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2010-10-28
• Publisher: Textstream

Summary

"How do I handle it if I find out my teen is having sex?" "What do I say?" "What does itmean that my teen has been diagnosed with an STD?"Dr. Overton offers a fresh perspective and medical expertise in this thoughtful,comprehensive guide.Before It's Too Lateteaches parents about:- trends in teen sexual behavior;- teen pregnancy-individual and societal impact, prevention strategies;- STDs among teens-how to stop the epidemic;- teens and abstinence-key issues;- birth control and teens-best methods;- communicating with kids about sex-being approachable."Dr. Overton has created this must-have resource for parents. A comprehensive, medically accurate guide that any parent, no matter the age of your child, can benefit from. This is one book you'll refer to over and over again."Patricia Paluzzi, DrPH, CNM, President and CEO Healthy Teen Network"When it comes to teens and sex, most headlines and reports suggest that the sky is falling. Dr. Overton's thoughtful analysis offers a different point of view-her practical advice forparents is sober not salacious; informed not inflammatory; helpful not hysterical."Sarah S. Brown, CEO The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy

Excerpts

Previews: Chapter 1: Protecting Your Teen: Sharpening Skills for a New Phase Talking to tweens and teens about sex—it can bring otherwise confident, assertive, successful, and powerful people to their knees. I've witnessed this scenario over and over again in my career as a physician who emphasizes teen pregnancy and STD prevention. Preventing teen pregnancy and STDs and raising sexually healthy children requires frequent, ongoing conversations about sex, and consistent pointers and reminders. Unfortunately, too many parents evade this task. The magnitude of parental reluctance to discuss sex with their kids is highlighted in a recent survey in which the vast majority of parents of 10- to 12-year-old children attending focus groups felt that they should talk to their children about sex, but many had not done so. The two top barriers reported by these parents were feeling uncomfortable and thinking that someone else would be better at it. Chapter 5: Talking With and Guiding Your Teen About Sex: What Parents Really Need to Know Listen and Speak with Love. In our fast-paced, technologically advanced, and goal-oriented society, it can be easy to overlook the most important, guiding force that we, as parents own—our love for our children. Loving our teens and expressing that love are not synonymous. It's important to let our teens know, often, that they are special and precious to us and that our love for them is unconditional. When our teens are certain of this love, they are more likely to listen to and heed our advice. For even when they roll their eyes at our comments or tell us that they "hate us," the love bond that we have forged will always be there, like an anchor that keeps them steady. Chapter 7: Contraception for Teens: Myths, Unique Needs, and More Many teens just do not perceive themselves as someone who can become pregnant, even when they are having sex. You've probably heard of teens' false sense of invincibility. This explains why teens sometimes do reckless things like illegally racing cars, experimenting with drugs, and yes, having unprotected sex. It's more than just a notion with teen girls and sex. I stopped being perplexed and really starting understanding the teen mind when pregnant teen after pregnant teen remarked that she "just didn't think it would happen to me," or "I just kind of never really thought about becoming pregnant as a real possibility," or "We just never thought about using birth control." These responses serve to remind us that teens' capacity to truly consider the consequences for certain actions, like unprotected sex, is different from adults. This capacity won't fully develop until adulthood, as pointed out in this anonymous saying: "There is nothing wrong with today's teenagers that 20 years won't cure."