Beyond the Big Talk

by Haffner, Debra W.; Tartaglione, Alyssa Haffner

• ISBN13: 9781557044723
• ISBN10: 1557044724
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2001-06-01
• Publisher: Newmarket Pr

Summary

As featured in Newsweek, Time, USA Today, and on Oprah, Dateline NBC, and 20/20, this leading sexuality educator now helps parents guide their children through the difficult adolescent yearsfrom the author of From Diapers To Dating. Debra Haffner's new book, Beyond The Big Talk, picks up from where her first, award-winning book, From Diapers to Dating, left off. The latter covered communicating about sexuality to children from infancy to age 12; the new book helps parents deal with adolescents from middle school to college. Organized in sections by agemiddle school (grades 7 and 8); early high school (grades 9 and 10); late high school (grades 11 and 12); and, ages 18-21 years oldBeyond The Big Talk delivers Haffner's values-oriented approach to raising sexually healthy teenagers in her highly praised, direct and informative style. She discusses the information appropriate for different ages, confronts such issues as peer pressure, dating and parties, alcohol and drugs, sexual harassment, abstinence, and much more. She believes that for the majority of teenagers, good parenting can make a difference, and, by following her advice, parents can increase the chances that their children will not become involved in sexual behavior they are not ready to handle. A supportive foreword by Haffner's teen-age daughter, Alyssa, gives a young person's perspective on the value of open communication between parent and child.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	ix
Foreword	xiii
Alyssa Haffner Tartaglione
The Basics	1	(44)
Sexually Healthy Families	6	(3)
``Good Kids``	9	(6)
Adult Amnesia	15	(4)
Communication Tips	19	(23)
Tips for Parents	42	(3)
Adolescence: An Introduction	45	(28)
The Five I's of Adolescent Development	49	(8)
Early Adolescence	57	(8)
Middle Adolescence	65	(4)
Late Adolescence	69	(4)
The Middle School Years	73	(32)
Starting Middle School	73	(3)
How Much Pressure is Peer Pressure	76	(6)
Going Together	82	(1)
Sex and the Middle School Teen	83	(4)
Boy-Girl Parties and School Dances	87	(3)
Unsupervised Time	90	(3)
``How Come He's in the Bathroom Again?	93	(3)
Erotica and the Middle School Child	96	(2)
It's Time to Leave the Baby Doctor's Office	98	(7)
``How Old Were You When You First Had Sex, Mom?``	100	(5)
Starting High School: Ninth and Tenth Grades	105	(40)
Starting High School	105	(2)
Sexual Behavior: What to Expect	107	(3)
Helping Your Teen Set Sexual Limits	110	(6)
Parties	116	(3)
Alcohol and Drugs	119	(3)
Date Rape Drugs	122	(3)
The Media	125	(4)
The Internet	129	(4)
Dealing With Sexual Harassment in Schools	133	(12)
Preventing Eating Disorders	137	(8)
Late High School: Eleventh and Twelfth Grades	145	(50)
Staying Connected	145	(2)
First Love	147	(6)
Sexual Behavior: What to Expect	153	(7)
Talking about Contraception and STD Prevention	160	(6)
Other Methods of Birth Control	166	(3)
Finding Condoms or Pills in Your Teen's Room	169	(2)
``Mom, I Think I'm Pregnant``	171	(10)
``Dad, I Think I'm Gay``	181	(7)
Leaving High School	188	(7)
Helping Your Teen Avoid Date Rape and Violence	189	(6)
Beyond High School, Ages 18-21	195	(24)
Your Almost Adult Child	195	(2)
Preparing Your Child (and Yourself) for College	197	(4)
The Late Adolescent Who Lives at Home	201	(1)
Sexual Behavior: What to Expect	202	(5)
Relationships	207	(2)
``But You Know We Sleep Together``	209	(3)
Teens Who Are Transgender	212	(4)
Perspective	216	(3)
Afterword	219	(4)
Appendix: Sources for More Information	223	(8)
Books for Teens	224	(1)
Websites on Adolescent Sexuality	224	(3)
Websites on General Adolescent Topics	227	(1)
Websites on Specific Issues	228	(1)
National Toll-Free Hotline Numbers	229	(2)
References	231	(6)
Index	237