Beyond Sibling Rivalry : How to Help Your Children Become Cooperative, Caring and Compassionate

by Peter Goldenthal, Ph.D.

• ISBN13: 9780805056884
• ISBN10: 0805056882
• Format: Trade Book
• Copyright: 1999-02-10
• Publisher: Henry Holt and Co.

Summary

A new way to look at sibling rivalry that sees children's relationships with each other in the context of the family as a whole. This is the first book to incorporate the latest thinking regarding family relationships as important contexts in which sibling relationships develop. Unlike other books that insist that conflicts among siblings reflect jealousy and a longing for parents' undivided attention, Dr. Goldenthal asserts that all family relationships have a bearing on rivalry between brothers and sisters--not only their relationship with each other but their relationship with their parents, and even their parents' relationships with their parents. Through examples of many different types of problem family situations, he gives practical guidelines and tools for solving common and not-so-common sibling conflicts. He shows parents of young children how to institute child-rearing practices that will prevent or at least diminish future sibling conflicts, and he provides strategies for reducing friction and stress among children when they arise.

Author Biography

Peter Goldenthal, Ph.D., a practicing psychologist and expert in sibling rivalry, has worked with hundreds of families and children for many years. He lives in Devon, Pennsylvania.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	p. ix
Introduction	p. 3
Predictable and Preventable Sibling Conflicts	p. 8
Unfairness, Anger, and Sibling Rivalry	p. 27
Look for Each Child's Unique Abilities	p. 55
Give Credit Where Credit Is Due	p. 76
How Does ADHD Affect Sibling Conflicts?	p. 100
Remember Whose Childhood It Is	p. 110
When Children Try to Carry Parents' Baggage	p. 125
Family Loyalty and Loyalty Conflicts	p. 143
Facilitate Empathy and Altruism	p. 160
Bribery Is Okay	p. 171
When Bribery Is Not Enough	p. 187
Self-Esteem and Generosity: The Cure for Sibling Rivalry	p. 206
Finding Psychological Help for Resolving Sibling Conflicts	p. 219
Some Useful Books for Parents	p. 227
Books for Young Children	p. 228
Index	p. 229
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