Duct Tape Parenting: A Less is More Approach to Raising Respectful, Responsible and Resilient Kids

by Hoefle,Vicki

• ISBN13: 9781937134181
• ISBN10: 1937134180
• Format: Nonspecific Binding
• Copyright: 2012-09-06
• Publisher: Bibliomotion Inc

Summary

There's a new set of 3Rs for our kids-respect, responsibility, and resilience-to better prepare them for life in the real world. Once developed, these skills let kids take charge, and let parents step back, to the benefit of all. Casting hover mothers and helicopter parents aside, Vicki Hoefle encourages a different, counter-intuitive-yet much more effective-approach: for parents to sit on their hands, stay on the sidelines, even if duct tape is required, so that the kids step up. Duct Tape Parentinggives parents a new perspective on what it means to be effective, engaged parents and to enable kids to develop confidence through solving their own problems. This is not a book about the parenting strategy of the day-what the author calls "Post-It Note Parenting"-but rather a relationship-based guide to span all ages and stages of development. Witty, straight-shooting Hoefle addresses frustrated parents everywhere who are ready to raise confident, capable children to go out in the world.

Author Biography

Vicki Hoefle is a professional parent educator and the creator of the Parenting On Track Program, which combines her expertise in Adlerian Psychology and as an ICF certified coach with a suite of time-tested tools. For more than two decades, Vicki, herself a mother of five children, has shared her parenting tips and techniques with families across the country. Her informative and highly engaging presentation style keeps her in demand as a speaker, facilitator, and educator. Visit Vicki at www.vickihoefle.com

Table of Contents

Foreword	p. xiii
Acknowledgments	p. xvii
Introduction	p. xix
Before We Get the Duct Tape, Let's See What Needs Fixing: Note, It's Not the Kids	p. 1
Feeding the Weed: Your Focus Is the Problem	p. 3
Band-Aids on Bullet Wounds: Your Strategy Is the Problem	p. 25
Being the Maid: Doing for Your Kids Is the Problem	p. 39
Holding onto Discipline: Your Fear Is the Problem	p. 58
The Cul-de-Sac Syndrome: Your Thinking Is the Problem	p. 72
Get out the Duct Tape and Take a Leap of Faith	p. 83
Duct Tape for the Relationship: Repairing Family Fractures Is a Solution	p. 85
Duct Tape for the Mouth: Keeping Your Mind Open and Your Mouth Closed Is a Solution	p. 107
Duct Tape for Your Body: Quitting Your Job as the Maid Is a Solution	p. 128
Duct Tape for the Eyes and Ears: Ignoring the Drama and Mischief Making Is a Solution	p. 153
Prepare for Departure: Launch with Enthusiasm	p. 173
Duct Tape Works: Stories from Real Kids of Duct Tape Parents	p. 201
Duct Tape Is Good for the Family: A Family That Works Together, Sticks Together	p. 219
Simulating the Real World: Raising the Next Generation of Leaders	p. 229
Afterword: Ode to Mom and Dad: The Kids' Perspective	p. 239
Resources	p. 251
Index	p. 253
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