Get the Life You Want

by Bandler, Richard; McKenna, Paul

• ISBN13: 9780757307768
• ISBN10: 0757307760
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2008-08-21
• Publisher: Hci

Summary

When people and therapists alike have a problem they can't fix, they call Richard Bandler because he delivers--often with miraculous results.Hailed as one of the greatest geniuses in the field of personal change, and the father of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Richard Bandler has helped tens of thousands of people around the globe rid themselves of 'incurable' phobias, fears, anxieties, addictions, negative habits, and past traumas often in a single session.Get the Life You Want is Richard Bandler at his best, sharing his remarkable insights, his controversial signature wit, and more than thirty-five time-tested NLP techniques that will bring about quick and lasting change in every area of your life, from breaking free of toxic or non-productive relationships, to delivering business presentations without a knot in your stomach, to quitting smoking for good. By putting Bandler's techniques into practice, you can literally change your brain chemistry without expensive drugs or endless therapy sessions; most of all, you can finally learn how to "run your own brain" instead of rehashing the same problems.You'll discover:How to Hone the Habit of Being Happy Why Thinking Positively Won't Change Your Life. . .And Why Thinking Precisely Will The Fast Phobia Cure ThatWill Banish Any Fear Including Fear of Flying, Public Speaking, and HeightsHow to Fall Out of Love with Someone (for Real!) If you're plagued with the past, stuck in a fear, or just unable to get your mental motor running on time, Get the Life You Want will offer a mental toolbox of ways to get your life in order. If you have spent too much time in therapy or too much money trying to do it yourself, this book is for you. The key to quick and lasting change is not only right at your fingertips, it's in your head literally. Get the Life You Want will help you unleash it.

Author Biography

Richard Bandler's books have sold more than half a million copies worldwide. Tens of thousands of people, many of them therapists, have studied Bandler's blend of hypnosis, linguistics, and positive thinking at colleges and NLP training centers in the United States, Europe, and Australia. Bandler holds a BA in philosophy and psychology from the University of California, Santa Cruz (UCSC) and an MA in psychology from Lone Mountain College in San Francisco. He has studied with or collaborated with some of the most well-respected psychologists of the century and he has authored or coauthored some of the seminal works in the field. Bandler and John Grinder coauthored The Structure of Magic Volume II (1976), Patterns of the Hypnotic Techniques of Milton H. Erickson Volume II (1977) and Changing With Families (1976), with Virginia Satir, Frogs Into Princes with John Grinder (1979) and Using Your Brainùfor a Change (1985).

Table of Contents

Foreword	p. xi
A Note from Owen Fitzpatrick, Editor	p. xiii
Preface	p. xix
Introduction	p. xxi
Getting to Know Your Own Brain-Taking Your Mental Inventory
The Power of Your Unconscious: The Freeway to Change	p. 3
The Qualities of Your Thoughts: Understanding Submodalities	p. 7
Running Your Own Brain: Changing Your Neurochemistry	p. 13
Building New Beliefs: The Structure of Certainty	p. 19
Timelines: Learning How You Mentally Code Time	p. 31
Getting Over It
Getting Over Bad Suggestions	p. 37
Getting Over Fears and Phobias	p. 47
Getting Over Bad Memories	p. 63
Getting Over Grief	p. 73
Getting Over Bad Relationships	p. 79
Getting Over Bad Decisions	p. 87
Getting Through It
Getting Through Habits and Compulsions	p. 103
Getting Through Physical Recovery	p. 119
Getting Through Resignation	p. 125
Getting Through Big Events	p. 131
Getting Through Tests (Exams and Interviews)	p. 135
Getting Through Obligations	p. 141
Getting To It
Getting To Fun	p. 153
Getting To Love	p. 157
Getting To Meet People	p. 165
Getting To Important Duties (Taxes and Study)	p. 173
Getting To Exercise	p. 183
Getting To Be More Organized	p. 189
Getting To Make More Money	p. 193
Getting To Make Big Decisions	p. 199
Conclusion	p. 207
Glossary	p. 211
Recommended Reading	p. 215
The Society of Neuro-Linguistic Programming Richard Bandler Licensing Agreement	p. 219
Index	p. 221
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Excerpts

RUNNING YOUR OWN BRAIN: Changing YourNeuroChemistry One of the main focuses in my work has been discovering ways to help people achieve what I call 'personal freedom'. Personal freedom means having the freedom to be able to control your thoughts and to manifest the kinds of feelings you want in your life.We are often imprisoned by the chains of our thoughts and we allow ourselves to think ourselves into problems. However, since most problems are created by our imagination and are thus imaginary, all we need are imaginary solutions. So, here are some effective ways of controlling your thinking for a change.Think of a time when you felt really good. Now, step inside that time and see through your eyes, hear through your ears, and feel the really good feeling all the way through your body. Make the images bigger, brighter, more colorful, and you'll probably find yourself feeling even better. Make the sounds louder and crisper, and if there are no sounds, add sounds. Start to intensify the good feeling.Next, find out where in your body the feeling starts and where it goes. Discover the direction it spins inside your body, and spin it faster and faster and, again, notice your feelings intensify. There lies the control you have over your brain to create powerful feelings inside of you.You can then attach these feelings to other thoughts. If you keep spinning this feeling inside your body and you think about your future while it's spinning, you will start to associate the feeling with your future. By doing this, you will start to feel better about your future.How to Feel Wonderful Exercise 1 - Think of a time you felt wonderful.2 - Close your eyes and imagine that time in vivid detail. See the image clearly, hear the sounds loudly, remember the feelings as they were then.3 - Imagine yourself stepping into that experience and imagine being in that memory as if it's happening now. See what you'd see, hear what you'd hear, feel how good you'd feel. Make the colors stronger and brighter if that helps. Notice how you were breathing back then, and breathe that way now.4 - Pay attention to the wonderful feeling in your body and get a sense of where the feeling starts, where it goes, and the direction it moves in. Imagine taking control over the feeling and spinning it faster and faster and stronger and stronger through your body as the feelings increase.5 - Think of a time in the future where you could use these good feelings. Spin these feelings throughout your body as you think about the future and the things you are doing over the next few weeks. Don't be too surprised if you find yourself feeling really good for absolutely no reason. Similarly too, if you find yourself in a negative or unresourceful state, you can change your mood by changing the qualities of the feeling.For example, think about somebody who annoys you, intimidates you, or irritates you. Make an image of him and see him look at you in whatever way he looks at you w

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