Learn to Love

by Jaksch, Mary

• ISBN13: 9780811832243
• ISBN10: 0811832244
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2002-02-01
• Publisher: Chronicle Books Llc

Summary

Learn to Loveis a colorful and inviting illustrated handbook that teaches the real skills and methods that make for healthy romantic unions. This unique guide describes ten detailed relationship strategies for creating intimacy, honesty, and empathy, while improving communication and fostering mutual respect. Over 25 dynamic exercises, such as role-changing and intensive listening, will help partners make lasting changes.Learn to Loveoffers effective techniques to address difficulties, while encouraging couples to identify what's best in what they share and make it even better. Just trying therapist Mary Jaksch's strategies is sure to bring partners closer together. Plus, readers will find that the lessons gleaned from this book also apply to relationships with family, friends, and coworkers.

Author Biography

Mary Jaksch is a psychotherapist and meditation teacher. As the founder of the Wellspring Relationship Training Program, she leads workshops, retreats, and lectures widely. She lives in New Zealand.

Table of Contents

Introduction	6	(2)
The Relationship Recipe	8	(40)
Love	10	(4)
Passion	14	(4)
Intimacy	18	(3)
The intimacy barometer	21	(1)
Commitment	22	(2)
Trust	24	(4)
Empathy	28	(3)
Looking through the crystal window	31	(1)
Truthfulness	32	(3)
Peeling away the masks	35	(1)
Kindness	36	(3)
The secret gift	39	(1)
Respect	40	(4)
Peacefulness	44	(3)
Peaceful time out	47	(1)
The Art of Positive Realism	48	(42)
The sexual barometer	50	(2)
Things just as they are	52	(3)
The dance of the moment	55	(1)
The corrective lens of values	56	(2)
Springing the gender trap	58	(3)
Confronting your stereotypes	61	(1)
Expanding your world of interest	62	(2)
Personality - the recognizable you	64	(4)
Responsibility - a joint effort	68	(4)
The changing weather of emotions	72	(4)
Reading body language	76	(2)
Controlling your anger	78	(2)
Taming your jealousy	80	(2)
Overcoming your fears	82	(2)
A home that works	84	(2)
How to rethink what you want	86	(3)
Streamlining your goals	89	(1)
Relationship Strategies	90	(48)
How to use the strategies	92	(2)
Closeness	94	(3)
Breathing life into love	97	(1)
Appreciation	98	(3)
The low-whine diet	101	(1)
Compassion	102	(3)
Awakening the tender heart	105	(1)
Honesty	106	(3)
Truth-saying	109	(1)
Dialogue	110	(3)
Walking in the other's shoes	113	(4)
The orderly chaos Mind Map®	117	(1)
Vision	118	(3)
Sympathetic magic	121	(1)
Time	122	(3)
Heart hour	125	(1)
Freedom	126	(3)
The elasticity challenge	129	(1)
Play	130	(3)
Play day	133	(1)
Surprise	134	(3)
A royal evening	137	(1)
Widening the Network	138	(14)
Family	140	(3)
The relationship tree	143	(1)
Children	144	(2)
Friends	146	(4)
Colleagues	150	(2)
Conclusion: Where to from here?	152	(2)
Further Reading	154	(1)
Useful Addresses	155	(1)
Index	156	(4)
Acknowledgments	160