Leverage How to change the people you love for all the right reasons and get the relationships you deserve

by Frazer, Jaemin

• ISBN13: 9781922611321
• ISBN10: 1922611328
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2022-10-01
• Publisher: Major Street Publishing

Summary

A fascinating, at times, confronting book concerned with the process of how to change the people you love and who love you back.

‘Don’t change the people you love’ may be the single worst piece of relationship advice ever given. It is actually important to be able to improve the quality of relationships to live a meaningful and successful life.

Leverage is for people who want closer, stronger and happier relationships. Its wisdom comes firstly out of the overflow of the author’s own experience improving the quality of his relationships, and then a lifetime of working with others to do the same.

The ability to change those you love comes from the combination of five things in this order: Security, Clarity, Integrity, Maturity and Authority. The author calls this the Leverage Model and each chapter in the book explores one of the five steps in the model.

The journey starts with the reader. The first and most important relationship is the quality of their relationship with themselves. Only when they have a deeply loving relationship with themselves will they be able to understand the nuance required to have a deeply loving relationship with another person.

Author Biography

Jaemin Frazer is coach, author and TEDx speaker. He is the founder of the Insecurity Project and specializes in helping entrepreneurs, leaders and business owners eradicate insecurity, fear and self-limiting beliefs. He is a leading voice globally on the subject of personal insecurity. Jaemin is the voice behind the popular ‘One minute coach’ radio segment heard by over 750,000 listeners daily. Jaemin is life coach, author and TEDx speaker. He is the founder of the Insecurity Project and specializes in helping entrepreneurs, leaders and business owners eradicate insecurity, fear and self-limiting beliefs. He is a leading voice globally on the subject of personal insecurity. Jaemin is the voice behind the popular ‘One minute coach’ radio segment heard by over 750,000 listeners daily.

Table of Contents

Chapter 1. The relationship dilemma

SECURITY
Chapter 2. The insecurity problem
Chapter 3. Be the prize
Chapter 4. Archetypes

CLARITY
Chapter 5. Your part in this mess
Chapter 6. What do you actually want?
Chapter 7. Rules of engagement

INTEGRITY
Chapter 8. Wholeheartedness
Chapter 9. Rapport with self
Chapter 10. Rebuilding trust

MATURITY
Chapter 11. Assertiveness
Chapter 12. Negotiability and Behavioural flexibility
Chapter 13. No compromise

AUTHORITY
Chapter 14. Threshold moments
Chapter 15. Weathering the storm
Chapter 16. There is always leverage

Conclusion