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"Loving Feminists: A Memoir of Being with and Making Love to the Modern (American) Woman", describes the anonymous author's development and evolution into one aspiring to romantic relationships relationships with feminist women--educated, independent, ambitious, careerist, modern--, and over twenty such relationships, including that with his wife of thirty years.
Intended to instruct and enlighten as well as entertain, a carefully crafted remembrance of early development and failed attempts at losing virginity offers a nostalgic reminder of the slow, fitful progression to sexual maturity once standard for young men of middle class, educated background. (Useful antidote to today's intimidating instruction via pornography.) With a twist. The author's discovery, age eight, that although appearing White he is Black, therefore of lesser status in America. This circumstance, coupled with subsequent trauma and a difficult stepfather relationship, transforms a somewhat bookish youngster into a colder, calculating creature of particular appetite and need where women and society are concerned.
Resentment of racial injustice, together with raising daughters, eventually aligns him with feminist outlook, prompting desire to alter standard predatory, chauvinist sexual practice to behavior more accommodating and pleasing to women. Especially independent, ambitious, attractive, self-possessed White women to whom he is attracted.
Progression and development in this vein offer a blueprint of meaningful, satisfying sex for feminist women and their partners. Stark antidote to slam-bam, thank-you-ma'am.
