Loving in the Moment : Moving from Ego to Essence in Relationships

by Lake, Gina

• ISBN13: 9781571746276
• ISBN10: 1571746277
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2010-04-01
• Publisher: Red Wheel/Weiser

Summary

We all search for love, but too often we find ourselves in difficult and challenging romantic relationships. Is there a way to find true compatibility and happiness with a partner?

Author Biography

Gina Lake has a master's degree in counseling psychology and over twenty years of experience as an astrologer and a channeler, with a focus on helping others discover and fulfill their life purpose. Her other books include Radical Happiness, Embracing the Now, Anatomy of Desire, Return to Essence, Living in the Now, Getting Free, and What About Now?

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	p. vii
Introduction	p. ix
Letting There Be Two	p. 1
Ego and Essence
Love Is Recognizing the Divine Self
From One to Two
The Role of Relationships in Spiritual Evolution
The Personality Is a Costume
The Ego Rejects Differences
Essence Loves Differences
Letting Life Have Its Way
How Ideas and Images Interfere with Relationships
The Self-image Is Manufactured
Programming and Relationships
Essence in Relationships
Moving Beyond Judgment	p. 19
Projection
Compatibility Between Personalities
Relationships That Support Essences Goals
How Judgments Interfere with Finding a Relationship
Criteria for a Relationship: The Ego's vs. Essence's
How Judgments Interfere with Sustaining Relationships
Judgments That Pretend to Be Helpful
Finding a Meaningful Relationship
Your Judgments Are About You
Love Is More Important Than Conditioning
Noticing Love
Taking Responsibility for Our Judgments
What to Do About Judgments
Honesty Is Not the Best Policy
The Gift of Acceptance
Moving Beyond Anger	p. 47
The Relationship Between Anger and Judgment
What Not to Do with Anger
How Not to Feed Anger
How to Work with Anger
What Drives Anger
Desires in the Context of a Relationship
Moving Beyond Romantic Illusions	p. 67
The Levels of a Relationship
The Role of the Personality in Relationships
Factors in Compatibility
Friendship Within a Romantic Relationship
Love Is a Choice
The Role of Conditioning in Relationships
The Ghosts That Shape Relationships
Getting Our Needs Met in a Relationship
The Expectation of Sexual Fulfillment
Fantasies and the Expectation of Beauty
The Expectation of Being Cared For
The Biggest Illusion of All
Moving Beyond Conditioning	p. 91
What Drives Conditioning
Ignoring and Accommodating Our Partner's Conditioning
How to Avoid Being Triggered by Your Partner's Conditioning
The Power of "I'm Sorry"
The Importance of Forgiveness
And Forget
Using Humor to Break Ego Identification
Expressing Gratitude
"Always" and "Never" Are Never True
Essence's Touches
A Spiritual Practice to Improve Relationships
Moving Beyond Differences	p. 109
Differences Don't Have to Be a Problem
Essence's Solution to Differences
Meeting Differences from Essence
Working with Dysfunctional Conditioning
Making Joint Decisions
Noticing Resentments
Negotiating
A Spiritual Perspective on Common Problems	p. 131
Infidelity
Inability to Commit
Saving Someone
Savers and Spenders
Different Spiritual or Religious Views
Sexual Differences
Experiencing Oneness Through Another	p. 147
Seeing the Divine in Another
Experiencing Essence in Another
Staying in Essence with Your Partner
Essence in Relationship
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