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Monogamy

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Edition:
1st
ISBN13:

9780679776178

ISBN10:
0679776176
Format:
Trade Paper
Pub. Date:
3/1/1999
Publisher(s):
Vintage

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Summary

In this sparkling, provocative collection of meditations on coupledom and its discontents, Adam Phillips manages to unsettle one of our most dearly held ideals, that of the monogamous couple, by speculating upon the impulses that most threaten it--boredom, desire, and the tempting idea that erotic fulfillment might lie elsewhere. With 121 brilliant aphorisms, the witty, erudite psychoanalyst who gave us On Kissing, Tickling, and Being Bored distills the urgent questions and knotty paradoxes behind our mating impulse, and reveals the centrality of monogamy to our notions of marriage, family, the self--in fact, to everything that matters. The only truly monogamous relationship is the one we have with ourselves. Every marriage is a blind date that makes you wonder what the alternatives are to a blind date. There's nothing more scandalous than a happy marriage.

Author Biography

Adam Phillips is the author of <b>Winnicott</b>; <b>On Kissing, Tickling, and Being Bored</b>; <b>On Flirtation</b>; and <b>Terror and Experts</b>.  Formerly the principal child psychotherapist at Charing Cross Hospital in London, he lives in England.<br><br><br><i>From the Hardcover edition.</i>

Excerpts

Excerpts from Monogamy:

"Our survival at the very beginning of our lives involves us in something like monogamy. Our growing up involves us in something like infidelity (we challenge our parents, we betray them, we let them down). So when we think about monogamy we think about it as though we are still children and not adults as well. We don't know what adults think about monogamy."

"A couple is a conspiracy in search of a crime. Sex is often the closest they can get."

"You can be occasionally unfaithful, but you can't be occasionally monogamous. You can't be monogamous and unfaithful at the same time; you can't not be either. It's a double life each way. If you choose one, you choose the possibility of both. That's real commitment."

"Each of our relationships is different, and we are different in each of them. That is what makes monogamy so perversely interesting."

"If sex brought us into the family, it is also what breaks us out of the family. In other words, people leave home when what they have got to hide -- their sexuality -- either has to be hidden somewhere else, or when it is best shown somewhere else. If you've got nothing to hide, you've got no where to go. Which is one of the reasons why couples sometimes want to be totally honest with each other."


From the Hardcover edition.

Excerpted from Monogamy by Adam Phillips
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