Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office 101 Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers

by Frankel, Lois P.

• ISBN13: 9780446693318
• ISBN10: 0446693316
• Edition: Reprint
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2010-06-07
• Publisher: Business Plus

Summary

In this runaway bestseller, internationally recognized executive coach Lois P. Frankel reveals a distinctive set of behaviors-101 in all-that women learn in girlhood that ultimately sabotage them as adults. She shows you how to eliminate them and offers invaluable coaching tips you'll easily be able to incorporate into your social and business skills. The results will pay off in career opportunities you never thought possible-and in an image that identifies you as someone with the power and know-how to occupy the corner office.

Author Biography

Lois P. Frankel, Ph.D., is the President of Corporate Coaching International. She is a sought-after speaker. Her websites are www.drloisfrankel.com; www.gr8speakers.com; and www.corporatecoachingintl.com

Table of Contents

Introduction	p. xiii
Getting Started	p. 1
How You Play the Game	p. 19
Pretending It Isn't a Game	p. 20
Playing the Game Safely and within Bounds	p. 22
Working Hard	p. 24
Doing the Work of Others	p. 26
Working without a Break	p. 28
Being Naive	p. 30
Pinching Company Pennies	p. 32
Waiting to Be Given What You Want	p. 34
Avoiding Office Politics	p. 38
Being the Conscience	p. 40
Protecting Jerks	p. 44
Holding Your Tongue	p. 46
Failing to Capitalize on Relationships	p. 48
Not Understanding the Needs of Your Constituents	p. 50
How You Act	p. 53
Polling Before Making a Decision	p. 54
Needing to Be Liked	p. 56
Not Needing to Be Liked	p. 58
Not Asking Questions for Fear of Sounding Stupid	p. 60
Acting Like a Man	p. 62
Telling the Whole Truth and Nothing but the Truth (So Help You God)	p. 65
Sharing Too Much Personal Information	p. 68
Being Overly Concerned with Offending Others	p. 70
Denying the Importance of Money	p. 72
Flirting	p. 74
Acquiescing to Bullies	p. 76
Decorating Your Office Like Your Living Room	p. 78
Feeding Others	p. 80
Offering a Limp Handshake	p. 82
Being Financially Insecure	p. 84
Helping	p. 87
How You Think	p. 89
Making Miracles	p. 90
Taking Full Responsibility	p. 92
Obediently Following Instructions	p. 94
Viewing Men in Authority as Father Figures	p. 96
Limiting Your Possibilities	p. 98
Ignoring the Quid Pro Quo	p. 102
Skipping Meetings	p. 104
Putting Work Ahead of Your Personal Life	p. 106
Letting People Waste Your Time	p. 108
Prematurely Abandoning Your Career Goals	p. 110
Ignoring the Importance of Network Relationships	p. 113
Refusing Perks	p. 116
Making Up Negative Stories	p. 118
Striving for Perfection	p. 120
How You Brand and Market Yourself	p. 123
Failing to Define Your Brand	p. 124
Minimizing Your Work or Position	p. 126
Using Only Your Nickname or First Name	p. 128
Waiting to Be Noticed	p. 130
Refusing High-Profile Assignments	p. 132
Being Modest	p. 134
Staying in Your Safety Zone	p. 136
Giving Away Your Ideas	p. 138
Working in Stereotypical Roles or Departments	p. 140
Ignoring Feedback	p. 142
Being Invisible	p. 144
How You Sound	p. 147
Couching Statements as Questions	p. 148
Using Preambles	p. 150
Explaining	p. 152
Asking Permission	p. 154
Apologizing	p. 156
Using Minimizing Words	p. 158
Using Qualifiers	p. 160
Not Answering the Question	p. 162
Talking Too Fast	p. 164
The Inability to Speak the Language of Your Business	p. 166
Using Nonwords	p. 168
Using Touchy-Feely Language	p. 170
The Sandwich	p. 172
Speaking Softly	p. 176
Speaking at a Higher-than-Natural Pitch	p. 178
Trailing Voice Mails	p. 180
Failing to Pause or Reflect Before Responding	p. 182
How You Look	p. 185
Smiling Inappropriately	p. 186
Taking Up Too Little Space	p. 188
Using Gestures Inconsistent with Your Message	p. 190
Being Over- or Underanimated	p. 192
Tilting Your Head	p. 194
Wearing Inappropriate Makeup	p. 196
Wearing the Wrong Hairstyle	p. 198
Dressing Inappropriately	p. 200
Sitting on Your Foot	p. 202
Grooming in Public	p. 204
Sitting in Meetings with Your Hands under the Table	p. 206
Wearing Your Reading Glasses around Your Neck	p. 208
Accessorizing Too Much	p. 210
Failing to Maintain Eye Contact	p. 212
How You Respond	p. 215
Internalizing Messages	p. 216
Believing Others Know More than You	p. 219
Taking Notes, Getting Coffee, and Making Copies	p. 222
Tolerating Inappropriate Behavior	p. 224
Exhibiting Too Much Patience	p. 228
Accepting Dead-End Assignments	p. 230
Putting the Needs of Others Before Your Own	p. 232
Denying Your Power	p. 234
Allowing Yourself to Be the Scapegoat	p. 237
Accepting the Fait Accompli	p. 239
Permitting Others' Mistakes to Inconvenience You	p. 242
Being the Last to Speak	p. 244
Playing the Gender Card	p. 246
Tolerating Sexual Harassment	p. 249
Crying	p. 251
Appendix Personal Development Planning and Resources	p. 255
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