Parenting from the Inside Out : How a Deeper Self-understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive

by Siegel, Daniel; Hartzell, Mary

• ISBN13: 9781585422098
• ISBN10: 1585422096
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2003-03-31
• Publisher: Tarcher

Summary

How many parents have found themselves thinking: "I can't believe I just said to my child the very thing my parents used to say to me. . . . Am I just destined to repeat the mistakes of my parents?" In Parenting from the Inside Outchild psychiatrist Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and early childhood educator Mary Hartzell, M. Ed., explore the extent to which our childhood experiences actually do shape the way that we parent. Drawing upon stunning new findings in neurobiology and attachment research, they explain how interpersonal relationships directly impact the development of the brain, and offer parents a step-by-step approach to forming a deeper understanding of their own life stories that will help them raise compassionate and resilient children. In this book, Siegel and Hartzell present a unique perspective on the "art and science" of building nurturing relationships with our children. Born out of a series of workshops for parents that combined Siegel's cutting-edge research on how communication impacts brain development with Hartzell's thirty years of experience as a child development specialist and parent educator, Parenting from the Inside Outguides parents through creating the necessary foundations for a loving and secure relationship with their children.

Author Biography

Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., received his medical degree from Harvard University and completed his postgraduate medical education at the University of California, Los Angeles. The author of The Developing Mind, a pioneering book on neurobiology and attachment, he is currently an associate clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine.

Mary Hartzell, M. Ed., is a child-development specialist and parent educator. She has taught children, parents, and teachers for more than thirty years and is the director of the renowned First Presbyterian Preschool of Santa Monica, California.

Table of Contents

Introduction	1	(13)
How We Remember: Experience Shapes Who We Are	13	(26)
How We Perceive Reality: Constructing the Stories of Our Lives	39	(18)
How We Feel: Emotion in Our Internal and Interpersonal Worlds	57	(23)
How We Communicate: Making Connections	80	(21)
How We Attach: Relationships Between Children and Parents	101	(21)
How We Make Sense of Our Lives: Adult Attachment	122	(32)
How We Keep It Together and How We Fall Apart: The High Road and the Low Road	154	(31)
How We Disconnect and Reconnect: Rupture and Repair	185	(35)
How We Develop Mindsight: Compassion and Reflective Dialogues	220	(27)
Reflections	247	(4)
Index	251	(6)
Acknowledgments	257