Speak Peace in a World of Conflict What You Say Next Will Change Your World

by Rosenberg, Marshall B.

• ISBN13: 9781892005175
• ISBN10: 1892005174
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2005-10-28
• Publisher: Puddledancer Press

Summary

Words have the power to create profound healing -- or incredible suffering -- and yet even with the best intentions it can be difficult to build harmony and trust through speech. This pioneering text presents a four-part model for immediately connecting words with peace and well-being in relationships. Applying the principles of Nonviolent Communication to conversation, the book seeks to answer the two central questions of How can we express what's alive in us? and How can we make life more wonderful? Chapters discuss using natural empathy to ease stressful situations and beat fear, thus avoiding dehumanising communication patterns, and instead seeing through the eyes of others to foster understanding. Examples of applications in education, correctional facilities, parenting, and the business world are given. This instructive guide teaches users of all types that it is possible to meet their needs and the needs of others in a compassionate manner, beginning with the very first words they use.

Author Biography

Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD, is the founder and educational director of the Center for Nonviolent Communication, which is on the web at www.CNVC.org. His previous books include Nonviolent Communication, Life-Enriching Education, and Raising Children Compassionately, and his work in the areas of world peace and communication has made him a respected figure in the global community. He lives in La Crescenta, California.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	1	(2)
Foreword	3	(2)
Dorothy J. Mayer, Ph.D.
Foreword	5	(4)
David Hart
INTRODUCTION	9	(14)
Origins of Nonviolent Communication	12	(3)
Purpose of NVC	15	(8)
PART I The Mechanics of Speaking Peace
CHAPTER 1 The Two Questions	23	(4)
CHAPTER 2 How Can We Express What's Alive in Us?	27	(14)
Observations	27	(5)
Feelings	32	(5)
Needs	37	(4)
CHAPTER 3 How Can We Make Life More Wonderful?	41	(18)
Requests	41	(6)
Requests versus Demands	47	(12)
PART II Applying NVC
CHAPTER 4 Change within Ourselves	59	(18)
Growth Through Self-Education	59	(7)
Self-Empathy for Our 'Mistakes'	66	(5)
Healing Old Hurts-Mourning versus Apology	71	(6)
CHAPTER 5 Connecting with Others Empathically	77	(10)
Responding to the Messages of Others	79	(8)
CHAPTER 6 Seeing the Beauty in Others	87	(8)
CHAPTER 7 What Do You Want to Change?	95	(10)
CHAPTER 8 Gangs and Other Domination Structures	105	(12)
How We Got Where We Are	105	(4)
Creating Change in Our Schools	109	(4)
Working with Gangs in Ghettos	113	(2)
Changing Other Social Institutions	115	(2)
CHAPTER 9 Transforming Enemy Images and Connecting	117	(16)
Mediating Between Warring Tribes	121	(5)
Addressing Terrorism	126	(7)
PART III Speaking Peace for Social Change
CHAPTER 10 Joining Forces with Others to Create Social Change	133	(14)
Funding for Social Change	141	(6)
CHAPTER 11 Dealing with Conflict and Confrontation	147	(14)
Seeing the Human Being Across the Table	150	(4)
Transforming Conflict in Business	154	(3)
Transforming Business Culture	157	(3)
When People Won't Meet	160	(1)
CHAPTER 12 Gratitude	161	(10)
Praise and Compliments as Damaging Judgments	164	(2)
Expressing Gratitude with NVC	166	(3)
How to Receive Gratitude	169	(2)
CHAPTER 13 Summary/Final Thoughts	171	(4)
Bibliography	175	(2)
Index	177	(10)
Some Basic Feelings and Needs We All Have	187	(1)
How You Can Use the NVC Process	188	(1)
About CNVC and NVC	189	(2)
About PuddleDancer Press	191	(1)
Trade Books from PuddleDancer Press	192	(4)
Trade Booklets from PuddleDancer Press	196	(1)
NVC Materials Available from CNVC	197	(1)
About the Author	198