Surviving a Stalker Everything You Need to Know to Keep Yourself Safe

by Gross, Linda; de Becker, Gavin

• ISBN13: 9781569246047
• ISBN10: 1569246041
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2000-08-02
• Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books

Summary

Stalking may seem like something that happens only to celebrities. In fact, it is an overlooked, yet extremely prevalent form of domestic violence--far more widespread than many people suppose. Now journalist Linden Gross provides all the necessary tools readers need to know to handle inappropriate obsessive attention. Readers will discover how to control their natural reactions (which often put victims at a disadvantage), how to stop feeding the obsessive interaction that perpetuates stalking situations, and how to protect their privacy and safety. Gross explains how these dangerous obsessions begin, the patterns they take, and what potential victims can do before the nightmare becomes real. Surviving a Stalker also draws on the expertise of psychologists and offers secrets from personal security professionals.

Table of Contents

Foreword	ix
Gavin de Becker
A Note to the Reader	xiii
Acknowledgments	xv
Are You Being Stalked?	1	(10)
You Never Know	11	(15)
Work It Out	26	(17)
Why? Understanding the Incomprehensible	43	(18)
Courting Disaster	61	(10)
Limit the Obsessive Interaction	71	(17)
The Toll: Don't Let It Get You Where You Live	88	(10)
Nipping Fixation in the Bud	98	(12)
Know Your 'Net Worth	110	(10)
Even Your Kids Are at Risk	120	(12)
Sidestep the Long Arm of Abuse	132	(15)
Watch for the Signs	147	(13)
You're Right: This Can't Be Love	160	(11)
Maybe You Don't Want to Be Rich and Famous	171	(16)
Do the Right Thing	187	(9)
Recognize When He's Mad for You	196	(13)
Your Day in Court: This Is Justice?	209	(16)
Policing the Threat	225	(20)
If It Happens to You: A Safety Primer	245	(12)
Getting Away	257	(9)
Keep Yourself Sane	266	(8)
Epilogue: Now What?	274	(6)
Notes	280