Take Charge Now! : Powerful Techniques for Breaking the Blame Habit

by Knaus, William J.

• ISBN13: 9780471325635
• ISBN10: 0471325635
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2000-05-25
• Publisher: Wiley

Summary

"Comprehensively covers many deadly aspects of blaming-blaming oneself, other people, and external conditions-and does so in an exceptionally clear, readable, and charming manner."-Albert Ellis, Ph.D., President, Albert Ellis Institute for Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy "Dr. Knaus provides a clear path away from fault-finding and condemnation to a tolerant, assertive, and fufilling modus vivendi. I heartily recommend it!"-Arnold Lazarus, Ph.D., Distinguished Professor Emeritus of Psychology, Rutgers University Take charge of your life once and for all with this proven program for ending the blame habit "Who's to blame?" Is this your first thought when something goes wrong? Do you find yourself trapped in a web of finger-pointing, criticism, and fault-finding when there's a problem? Or does fear of blame or criticism paralyze you into inaction? Bestselling author and therapist William Knaus shows you how to overcome the self-destructive tendency to blame and achieve a more rewarding and happier life. Here, you'll learn valuable steps to increase your ability to resolve conflicts, improve your self-confidence, and avoid damaging "blame traps" that can frustrate personal and professional fulfillment. Take Charge Now! provides you with the necessary skills to recognize potential blame situations and defuse them with confidence. You'll also learn to build stronger relationships as you discover how to understand other points of view while standing up for your own. Packed with imaginative ideas and thought-provoking exercises, Take Charge Now! presents a vital program for improving your life

Author Biography

WILLIAM J. KNAUS, Ed.D., has been a therapist for over twenty-five years and is a former director of training at the Institute for Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy. His work has been covered extensively in national print and broadcast media. He is the author of Wileys bestsellers, Change Your Life Now! and Do It Now!

Table of Contents

Preface	vii
Introduction	1	(4)
PART ONE Dimensions of Blame
Exiting the Blame Trap	5	(8)
Tackling Stereotyped Blame	13	(7)
Freedom from Exoneration Ploys	20	(6)
Cause, Effect, and Blame	26	(8)
Foibles, Flaws, and Blame	34	(8)
Self-Consciousness, Shame, and Guilt	42	(13)
Breaking the Circles of Blame	55	(6)
Piercing Patterns of Blame	61	(14)
PART TWO Relationships and Blame
Blame and Intimacy	75	(10)
Triumphing over Family Blame	85	(6)
Understanding Blamers	91	(10)
Communicating Powerfully with Impact	101	(10)
PART THREE Overcoming Blame
Improving Your Life Story	111	(9)
Beyond the Boundaries of Blame	120	(13)
Increasing Perspective	133	(8)
Debunking False Blame Beliefs	141	(12)
Busting the Blame-Anger Connection	153	(10)
Frustration Tolerance Training	163	(13)
Overcoming Blame through Assertiveness	176	(13)
Procrastination, Blame, and Change	189	(16)
Endnote	205	(2)
Index	207