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| Acknowledgments | |
| Introduction: From Telling to Sharing: Changes in Adoption Practice | p. 1 |
| Adoption and the World of the Parent | p. 11 |
| Adoption Research | p. 25 |
| Adoption and the World of the Young Child | p. 57 |
| Stories of Parents and Children Talking Together about Adoption | p. 94 |
| Teddy and Anna | p. 95 |
| Teddy: I don't want [my birthfather] to find me. He'd take me away. He'd change his mind. | |
| Anna: You know, [in adoption] somebody wins and somebody loses. | |
| Laura and Maya | p. 101 |
| Laura: Mommy, you're not really really my mommy, are you? | |
| Maya: Let's call [my birthmom] Forsythia. | |
| Jeff and Melissa | p. 123 |
| Jeff: Why didn't my real mom want me? ... I think she didn't like me. | |
| Melissa: I was always wanted. My parents who adopted me wanted me even before I was born. | |
| Ian and Elizabeth | p. 130 |
| Ian: How fast did you go, Mommy, to get me in the car? | |
| Elizabeth: Then I was in Daddy's tummy! | |
| Mehera | p. 145 |
| Mehera: Adopting means you love a baby very much and go find her. | |
| Kathy and Aaron | p. 152 |
| Kathy: Who is right, Mom, my birthmom or Jane [who will keeps her baby]? | |
| Aaron: It's okay, Mom. You have me now. | |
| Daniel Joo Bin: Family Lost and Found | p. 157 |
| Daniel: You're Oma. That means "Mother" in Korean. | |
| Virginia and Jonathan | p. 162 |
| Virginia: Mom, why would a lady who grew a baby give the baby away? | |
| Jonathan: I so sad I didn't grow in your uterus, Mommy. | |
| Nora | p. 172 |
| Nora: Some kids have lots of mothers. | |
| Max and Lani: Twins in an Open Adoption | p. 178 |
| Max: Okay, Sis, first I'll marry our friend; then I'll marry you, and one can be the birthmom and one can be the adopted mom. | |
| Lani: I wish I had been in your womb. | |
| Paul and Steven | p. 184 |
| Paul: Joey is lucky because his mom is three things - his mom, his birthmother, and his teacher. Why can't you be three things? | |
| Steven: When will I ever see my sister again? | |
| Margaret and William: Adoption as "No Big Deal" | p. 203 |
| A Birth and Adoptive Father | p. 207 |
| Richard: Where the kid came from seems sort of bookish, abstract. | |
| Afterword | p. 217 |
| Appendix A: Two Families Who Decided Not to Talk with Their Young Children about Adoption | p. 221 |
| Eric: One-Time Telling | p. 221 |
| Jeremy and Chloe: Deciding to Postpone Telling until Latency | p. 222 |
| Appendix B: Adoptive Comments, Questions, and Play Sequences of Adopted Children in the Stories, Arranged by Age | p. 225 |
| References | p. 243 |
| Index | p. 253 |
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