Thinking Parent, Thinking Child

by Shure, Myrna B.

• ISBN13: 9780071431965
• ISBN10: 0071431969
• Edition: 1st
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2005-09-09
• Publisher: McGraw-Hill

Summary

The bestselling author ofRaising aThinking Childshows parents how tohelp their children solve more than 100common problemsBest-selling author Dr. Myrna Shure has helpedthousands of parents and children with her awardwinning"I Can Problem Solve" (ICPS) program, basedon her own original research in developmental psychology.Thinking Parent,Thinking Childwill help you guide your children in the use of ICPS to come upwith their own solutions to more than 100 of themost common problems, including being a sore loser,acting aggressively, having trouble with friendships orteachers, or experiencing a major loss."If you're looking for aparenting book thatdoesn't rehash theobvious, this is it."New York Post

Author Biography

Myrna B. Shure, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at Drexel University in Philadelphia. She is the author of two award-winning parenting books and the creator of nationally recognized conflict resolution and violence prevention programs for schools.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	ix
A Message for You	xv
Part 1 Dealing with Feelings	1	(80)
Anger	5	(9)
Oh, Those Tantrums!	5	(2)
Darn Those Curse Words!	7	(2)
``Mommy, I Hate You!''	9	(1)
Is Your Child Angry? What Does He Really Understand?	10	(4)
Frustration and Disappointment	14	(13)
``My Child Hates to Lose''	14	(2)
Does Your Child Have to Be the Center of Attention?	16	(2)
Put an End to Whining	18	(3)
Help Kids Learn to Be Resilient	21	(3)
``My Kids Wish for What They Don't Have''	24	(3)
Stress, Worries, Fears, and Trauma	27	(14)
Starting School or a New School	27	(2)
Test Stress: What You Can Do	29	(3)
Less Stress Means More Learning	32	(2)
Too Shy to Participate?	34	(3)
When a Family Member Is Chronically III	37	(4)
Coping with Loss	41	(13)
Rethinking Divorce: It Doesn't Always Have to Hurt Your Child	41	(2)
When a Best Friend Moves Away	43	(3)
Helping Your Child Cope with the Death of a Loved One	46	(2)
Celebrating Mother's and Father's Days---When Mom or Dad, Isn't Here	48	(3)
When the Family Pet Dies	51	(3)
Caring and Empathy	54	(18)
Are We Sending Different Messages to Boys and to Girls?	54	(3)
Parents Have Feelings, Too	57	(4)
What Does It Mean to Be ``Kind''?	61	(2)
``Now Say You're Sorry!''---but Does She Really Mean It?	63	(3)
Help Kids Be Helpers and to Give as They Receive	66	(2)
Help Your Child Understand Those with Disabilities	68	(4)
Self-Esteem and Sense of Control	72	(9)
To Praise or Not to Praise	72	(2)
A Niche for Every Kid	74	(1)
``Does Anybody Care About Me?''	75	(3)
``I Can Make It Happen!''	78	(3)
Part 2 Handling and Preventing Problems	81	(84)
Time and Timing: Bedtime, Procrastination, Interrupting, Impatience	87	(11)
``Is This a Good Time?''---``What Can I Do While I Wait?''	87	(3)
End the Bedtime Wars	90	(3)
``I'll Do It Later''---Curing Procrastination	93	(2)
``Can't You See I'm on the Phone!''	95	(3)
Possessiveness	98	(11)
When Kids Fight over Toys	98	(3)
Borrowing Without Permission: Parents to the Rescue?	101	(2)
When Preteens Stake Their Claim: ``It's My Time!''	103	(2)
``Get Out of My Space!''	105	(4)
Defiance, Tattling, and Lying	109	(13)
``Why Is My Child So Defiant?''	109	(2)
``Stop That Sassy Talk!''	111	(3)
Dawdling: Defiance or Distraction?	114	(2)
Help Your Child Stop Tattling	116	(3)
``You're Lying!''	119	(3)
Physical Aggression, Bullies, and Victims	122	(9)
``Mommy, Tommy Hit Me!''	122	(2)
When Your Child Hurts Others	124	(2)
It's Not Always Time for a Time-Out	126	(1)
To Spank or Not to Spank	127	(4)
Emotional Aggression	131	(13)
When Preschoolers Hurt Others	131	(2)
``Peter's Picking on Me!''---How to Help When Your Child Is Teased	133	(3)
When Friends Betray Each Other's Secrets	136	(2)
``She Stabbed Me in the Back''---Stopping the Spread of Rumors	138	(3)
How to Help When Your Child Is Excluded	141	(3)
Talking with Kids About Safe Behaviors, Risky Behaviors, and Violence	144	(21)
Helping Children Avoid Dangerous Situations	144	(2)
Keeping Your Kids Away from the Wrong Crowd	146	(3)
Talking About Drugs	149	(3)
Talking About Smoking and Alcohol	152	(3)
Talking with Preteens About Sex	155	(2)
Are Video Games and Violent TV Shows Too Real?	157	(3)
Teaching Kids Not to Hate	160	(5)
Part 3 Nurturing Relationships	165	(40)
Family Ties	169	(11)
Making Family Quality Time	169	(2)
Work Family Time into Your Work Schedule	171	(4)
``Did I Promise That?''	175	(2)
When Mom Says Yes but Dad Says No	177	(3)
Sibling Rivalry	180	(13)
Solving ``Trivial'' Problems	180	(3)
``She Gets More Playdates than Me!''	183	(2)
Don't Play the Blame Game	185	(3)
Stop Sibling Rivalry over Rules and Privileges	188	(2)
Sibling Spats: They're Not Always Bad	190	(3)
Peers	193	(12)
``Mommy, No One Likes Me''	193	(3)
Help Children Appreciate Others' Tastes	196	(2)
``My Child Always Assumes the Worst''	198	(2)
``My Child Brags Too Much''	200	(2)
Hobbies Can Help Kids Make Friends	202	(3)
Part 4 Building Life Skills	205	(42)
Listening	209	(10)
Listening in School	209	(2)
``Is Anybody Listening?''	211	(2)
``Do I Really Listen to My Child?''	213	(2)
Beyond Listening: Talking So Everyone Is Heard	215	(4)
Responsibility	219	(12)
``Is the Middle of the Floor a Good Place for Your Toys?''	219	(2)
The Chore Wars	221	(2)
``Why Is My Child So Forgetful?''	223	(2)
``Do It Yourself!''	225	(3)
Should I Give My Child an Allowance?	228	(3)
School, Homework, and Learning	231	(16)
Who Does the Homework?	231	(3)
Homework: When to Do It	234	(3)
Nurture a Love of Reading	237	(3)
Use Sports to Teach Math	240	(2)
Dads: An Important Ingredient of Academic Success	242	(5)
Epilogue	247	(2)
References	249	(8)
Index	257

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