Triangles

by Staheli, Lana

• ISBN13: 9780060187583
• ISBN10: 0060187581
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 1997-01-01
• Publisher: HarperCollins

Summary

Sixty percent of all marriages are affected by affairs. In this invaluable and timely guide, marriage counselor Dr. Lana Staheli explains the hard facts and consequences of affairs as no one has before: For instance, women under thirty are as likely as men to have an affair, fewer than 10% of affairees divorce their spouse to marry their lover and nearly 80% of those who divorce during an affair regret it later. Most marriages can survive, but prevention is the key.
Happily married for twenty years, Dr. Staheli brings both her personal and professional expertise to the subject as she gives readers a practical perspective on affairs, helps show why they happen and provides the skills and understanding needed to help insulate a marriage and build the all-important trust that can enable couples to avoid or resolve these painful situations. Offering advice to affairees on what and what not to expect from an affair, Triangles can help not only to save a relationship but to bring exciting new intimacy to every married couple's life.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments
Introduction
Human Nature and Affairs: A Brief History	p. 3
Facts Everyone Should Know About Affairs	p. 9
Men's Affairs	p. 21
Women's Affairs	p. 29
The Physiology and Psychology of Affairs	p. 49
Types of Affairs and the Needs They Meet	p. 61
Costs and Consequences	p. 81
An Affair Is Just an Affair	p. 85
Ending the Affair	p. 101
Changing Course: Leaving Your Marriage to Be with Your Lover	p. 105
Facts on Divorce	p. 113
Refocusing on Your Marriage	p. 125
Perspective	p. 137
Discovery: Options for Dealing with a Spouse's Affair	p. 145
Coping with the Shock and Trauma	p. 165
Strengthening Communication	p. 189
Affair-Proof Your Marriage: Be Each Other's Lover	p. 207
Conclusion	p. 219
Bibliography	p. 227
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