Try and Make Me! Simple Strategies That Turn Off the Tantrums and Create Cooperation

by Levy, Ray; O'Hanlon, Bill; Goode, Tyler Norris

• ISBN13: 9781579545536
• ISBN10: 157954553X
• Edition: Reprint
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2002-02-09
• Publisher: Rodale Books

Summary

Stop problem behavior in its tracks.No more bargaining over TV time! * No more whining from the back seat! * And no more feeling guilty when your problem child misbehaves!In this book, esteemed child therapists Ray Levy, Ph.D., and Bill O'Hanlon, M.S., offer a revolutionary approach to parenting that's guaranteed to reverse your difficult child's behavior-- now. You'll receive advice on...* How you unwittingly may be triggering your child's defiance * The keys to turning off back talk * Using consequences to motivate your child to change * How to use the authors' special Academies technique to teach good behavior...and much more!

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	ix
Introduction	xi
Part 1 Why Did Our House Turn Into a War Zone?
Winning the Brat War	3	(5)
Where Defiance Starts	8	(9)
Because I Said So	17	(6)
Other Influences	23	(7)
Why Aren't These Kids Motivated to Change?	30	(11)
Part 2 Who Has Control of This Joystick?
May I Have This Dance?	41	(5)
Parenting Mythology	46	(9)
Part 3 Getting the Monkey off Your Back
It's His Head, Not Yours	55	(11)
Avoiding a Power Struggle	66	(17)
Part 4 Upping the Ante by Intensifying the Positives
Growing Your Relationship	83	(9)
When Praise Doesn't Work	92	(5)
Rewarding Small Changes	97	(5)
The Power of Playtime	102	(11)
Part 5 You Solve It, or I'll Solve It...and You Won't Like My Solution
Training Camp	113	(7)
The Power of Consequences	120	(12)
Time Out	132	(9)
Hold Downs	141	(14)
Guided Compliance	155	(6)
Pulling In the Reins	161	(5)
The Academy	166	(14)
Exercising the Future Muscle	180	(6)
Parenting Miscues	186	(7)
United We Stand	193	(7)
Send-Off	200	(17)
Resources
Responding to Defiance, Step by Step	205	(3)
Scripts for Shutting Down Arguments	208	(6)
For Further Reference	214	(3)
Index	217