Unplugging Power Struggles : Resolving Emotional Battles with Your Kids, Ages 2 To 10

by Faull, Jan

• ISBN13: 9781884734434
• ISBN10: 188473443X
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2001-08-01
• Publisher: Parenting Pr

Summary

Children have a strong need to be in control of their own lives. Power struggles with their parents most commonly erupt during toddler and teen years, but can occur at any time, to the misery of everyone involve. Some parents instinctively let up on controls as their child matures. Unplugging Power Struggles is for parents whose children push for control beyond the limits of their development and maturity or the parents' comfort level. Parents learn -- -- what issues of importance to the parent will cause power struggles to occur -- discipline techniques that keep power struggles from arising -- how to avoid power struggles by giving appropriate choices -- when and how to let children decide for themselves -- ways to end power struggles peacefully -- which power struggles a parent will always lose Without clear guidance and controls from parents, children flounder. However, children who are allowed to make some decisions are more willing to go along with parents when it comes to big decisions concerning safely, values, and conduct. Parents can make their jobs easier by avoiding power struggles or ending them peacefully. Their children will gain competency and self-esteem at the same time.

Table of Contents

Introduction	6	(1)
The Dreaded Power Struggle	7	(8)
Why Children Need Power and Control	15	(10)
Choices and Decisions Suitable for Children	25	(9)
Sometimes You Just Have to Hold On	34	(12)
Choices, Negotiation, and Compromise	46	(17)
Letting Go of a Power Struggle	63	(10)
Choosing Any One of the Three Options	73	(9)
Power Struggles You Will Always Lose	82	(12)
What You Bring to Power Struggles	94	(9)
Tapping into Your True Power	103	(13)
Rebuilding Damaged Relationships	116	(6)
Afterword	122	(1)
Helpful Resources	123	(2)
Index	125