From the #1 wedding Web site and the author ofThe Knot Complete Guide To Weddings In The Real World, a comprehensive guide to choosing the perfect words and music for your wedding. In her third book in The Knot series, Carley Roney has created a complete guide to wedding vows, toasts, and readings that is the perfect resource for wedding couples, bridesmaids, best men, and parents alike. Drawing on wedding traditions and customs from around the world,The Knot Complete Guide To Wedding Vows And Traditionsincludes real-world information on: Vows, from the traditional "to have and to hold" to creating your own Rituals from a variety of traditionsbreaking the glass, cutting the cakeand their history and significance Toasts, from the classics to advice on writing your own, as well as toasting etiquette and tips on choosing your toastmaster Readings, spanning various customs and heritages, poetry and prose, plus sources for finding your own selections Musiccomplete lists of popular options to help you chose the perfect songs from the processional to the last dance

Carley Roney is Editor-in-Chief of The Knot, the nation’s leading online wedding resource, where she offers real-world wedding advice to millions of to-be-weds through The Knot Web site (www.theknot.com), The Knot Wedding Gowns magazine, and The Knot Wedding Pages, a regional bridal magazine sold across the U.S. She has authored The Knot Complete Guide to Weddings in the Real World and The Knot Ultimate Wedding Planner and has appeared regularly on NBC’s Today show and other media outlets.

Acknowledgments

xi

Introduction

xiii

PART ONE Vows

Traditional Religious Vows

3

(7)

Protestant Vows

3

(2)

Basic Protestant Vows

4

(1)

Lutheran Vows

4

(1)

Episcopal Vows

4

(1)

Methodist Vows

4

(1)

Presbyterian Vows

5

(1)

Baptist Vows

5

(1)

Roman Catholic Vows

5

(1)

Eastern Orthodox Vows

6

(1)

Unitarian Vows

7

(1)

Jewish Vows

7

(1)

Reform

8

(1)

Conservative

8

(1)

Muslim Vows

8

(1)

Hindu Vows

9

(1)

Quaker Vows

9

(1)

Buddhist Vows

10

(1)

Interfaith and Nondenominational Vows

10

(5)

Ethical Humanist Vows

15

(1)

Civil Vows

15

(1)

Writing Your Own Vows

16

(13)

Writers' Guidelines

17

(1)

Real Couples' Vows

18

(11)

Real Couple Tina and Ken

22

(4)

Notes

26

(3)

PART TWO Readings

Becoming Well-Read

29

(3)

What to Select?

29

(1)

Who Reads?

30

(1)

How's It Done?

31

(1)

Traditional Religious Readings

32

(8)

Scripture

32

(7)

Old Testament

32

(2)

New Testament

34

(5)

The Jewish Seven Blessings (Sheva B'rachot)

39

(1)

Buddhist Marriage Homily

40

(1)

Cultural Readings and Blessings

40

(3)

Poetry and Prose

43

(34)

PART THREE Rings and Other Rituals

Exchanging Rings

77

(3)

Protestant/Presbyterian

77

(1)

Lutheran

78

(1)

Episcopal

78

(1)

Methodist

78

(1)

Baptist

78

(1)

Catholic

78

(1)

Unitarian

78

(1)

Jewish

79

(1)

Nondenominational

79

(1)

More Exchanges

80

(2)

Triple Ring Exchange (Eastern Orthodox)

80

(1)

Crowning Ceremony (Eastern Orthodox)

80

(1)

Garland Exchange (Hindu and Hawaiian)

81

(1)

Kola Nuts (Nigeria)

81

(1)

Arras (Spanish and Latino)

81

(1)

Meher (Muslim)

81

(1)

Rose Ceremony (Nondenominational)

82

(1)

Giving Thanks

82

(1)

Libation Ceremony (Africa)

82

(1)

Homage to the Fire God, Agni (Hindu)

83

(1)

Tea or Sake Ceremony (China and Japan)

83

(1)

Real Couple Dawn and David

84

Unifying Rituals

83

(4)

Handfasting (Afrocentric)

83

(2)

Handfasting (Celtic)

85

(1)

Handfasting (Egypt)

86

(1)

Hasthagranthi (Hindu)

86

(1)

Circling the Table (Eastern Orthodox)

87

(1)

Circling (Jewish)

87

(1)

Lazo (Latino)

87

(1)

Symbolic Rituals

87

(10)

Seven Steps (Hindu)

87

(1)

Honey Ceremony (Multifaith)

88

(1)

Unity Candle (Catholic)

88

(1)

Candle Ceremony (Wiccan)

89

(1)

Candle Ceremony (Nondenominational)

90

(1)

Crossing Sticks (African-American)

91

(1)

Jumping the Broom (African-American)

91

(1)

Tasting the Four Elements (Yoruba)

91

(2)

Mala Badol (Bangladesh)

93

(1)

Breaking the Glass (Jewish)

93

(1)

P'ye-Baek (Korea)

93

(1)

Gifts of Eggs (Muslim)

93

(1)

Honey and Walnuts (Greece)

94

(3)

Real Couple Melissa and Steve

92

(3)

Notes

95

(2)

PART FOUR Programs and Quotes

Programming Notes

97

(3)

Real Couple Sara and Derek

98

(2)

A Program Template

100

(3)

Real Couple Lyzette and Roland

102

(1)

Favorite and Famous Quotes

103

(10)

Notes

111

(2)

PART FIVE Music and Dances

The Ceremony

113

(6)

Great Ceremony Selections

115

(4)

The Prelude

115

(1)

The Processional

116

(1)

Additional Ceremony Selections

117

(1)

The Recessional

118

(1)

The Reception

119

(26)

Reception Music Notes

121

(1)

First Dance Songs

121

(12)

Parent Dances

133

(1)

Dinner Music

134

(2)

Dancing Music

136

(9)

Real Couple Amy and Jeff

140

(2)

Notes

142

(3)

PART SIX Speeches and Toasts

Talking Points

145

(2)

Traditional and Cultural Toasts

147

(3)

Blessings

150

(1)

Shakespearean Toasts and Blessings

151

(1)

Toasts for Members of the Wedding Party

152

(29)

From Best Man

152

(4)

From Maid of Honor

156

(3)

From Parents

159

(6)

From Siblings and/or Adult Children

165

(2)

From Bride to Groom

167

(4)

From Groom to Bride

171

(4)

From Couple to Parents

175

(1)

From Couple to Guests

176

(5)

Real Couple Debbie and Sean

154

(20)

Real Couple Jessica and Byron

174

(4)

Notes

178

(3)

Source Biographies

181

(6)

Resources

187

(2)

Permissions

189

(6)

Photo Credits

195

(2)

Index

197

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