52 Lessons on Communicating Love: Tips, Anecodotes, and Advice for Connecting with the One You Love From America's Leading Relationship Therapist

by WESTHEIMER RUTH K.

• ISBN13: 9780883966969
• ISBN10: 0883966964
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2004-09-15
• Publisher: Blue Mountain Arts

Summary

"Some people think romance is corny. It's not. It's necessary. Others, especially some men, think romance is somehow demeaning. But being romantic doesn't make a man less of
a man. It makes him more of one.

Love can be hard to put into words, but in the form of a bouquet of flowers, it can never be misunderstood. Love in the form of taking on some household chore can't be miscommunicated. Love that is accompanied by the words "I'm sorry" will never be rejected. Love in the form of focusing your total attention on your partner for a few minutes or a few hours, even when there's something else you'd rather be doing, will speak volumes.

Chapters Include:

7 Universal dilemmas of communicating love
7 On finding your soul mate
7 Not so universal dilemmas of communicating love
7 Danger signs
7 Create an atmosphere of love
7 Ways to communicate love
7 When the going gets rough
7 Take a personal inventory
Making each moment together count
"

Table of Contents

Introduction	2	(20)
1. Really mean it when you say "I love you"	4	(2)
2. Make sure your words and your actions are in sync	6	(2)
3. Tied tongues will get you nowhere...you've got to talk to each other	8	(2)
4. Keep it simple... don't try to analyze everything	10	(2)
5. Be sure you're saying what you really mean	12	(2)
6. It's great to reach for the stars...just don't be disappointed if you only get as far as the moon	14	(2)
7. Don't take your partner's foibles personally	16	(2)
8. Romance is more important than you may think	18	(2)
9. Play your song	20	(2)
10. Two hearts beat stronger by candlelight	22	(2)
11. Turn off the TV...turn on the love	24	(2)
12. Look your partner in the eyes	26	(2)
13. Call each other by name	28	(2)
14. Your wardrobe says a lot about you	30	(2)
15. Make coming home something to look forward to	32	(2)
16. Dare to do things differently	34	(2)
17. Schedule a date with each other	36	(2)
18. Find activities you can do together	38	(2)
19. A change of scenery works wonders	40	(2)
20. When taking time off, don't forget to plan for romance	42	(2)
21. Knead your partner	44	(2)
22. Touch as often as possible	46	(2)
23. Don't be afraid to ask each other for help	48	(2)
24. Take breaks during the day to communicate your love	50	(2)
25. Share the burdens	52	(2)
26. If love's flame is burning low, turn up the heat	54	(2)
27. Don't wait until you're in the mood	56	(2)
28. Let your bedroom be the sanctuary for your love	58	(2)
29. Days and nights offer two very different opportunities to share your love	60	(2)
30. Never put pressure on your partner	62	(2)
31. Sometimes you have to compromise	64	(2)
32. Make sure you're not faking it too much	66	(2)
33. Exercise together if you want to become gold-medal lovers	68	(2)
34. Learn to say "yes"	70	(2)
35. If you're having problems connecting, get help now!	72	(2)
36. Dare to be like a turtle	74	(2)
37. Love shouldn't be blue	76	(2)
38. Don't put too many bad apples in your memory sack	78	(2)
39. Repair any breaks in your relationship before it's too late	80	(2)
40. Be careful not to take out your frustrations on the one you love	82	(2)
41. "He says, she says" gets you nowhere	84	(2)
42. Learn to control your anger	86	(2)
43. It's okay to have a few secrets	88	(2)
44. Find a balance of power	90	(2)
45. Don't wait for tragedy to occur to show your love	92	(2)
46. In times of crisis, focus on your partner	94	(2)
47. Your love doesn't have to suffer when one of you is away	96	(2)
48. Check your expectations at the door...people are not going to change	98	(2)
49. Before you tie the knot again, be sure it's what you really want to do	100	(2)
50. You have to work at making your love the best it can be	102	(2)
51. It's the little things you do each day that will keep your love strong	104	(2)
52. Make every day you're in love memorable	106	(2)
Tending to the Garden of Love	108	(1)
Heart to Heart	109	(2)
About the Authors	111